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Nor are they living in a state of denial, dissociated from fear in a way
that renders it inactive, leaving them vulnerable to attack when the
lions next set out to hunt.

As human being’s we are different. One of the difficulties that we
can run into in our relationship with fear is that we often lack the
skills to self-regulate its intensity and its duration.

When we experience fear, we don’t necessarily turn the volume of
our high alert system back down automatically. Once our fear has
been activated, even though the threat is over, and the same
situation may be highly unlikely to ever happen again, we go over
and over it in our mind, unable to shake it off and put it behind us.

How do we change this? How can we define a difference between
healthy Fear and Anxiety and unhealthy Fear and Anxiety?

A good starting point is to differentiate between the kind of fear that
is felt in the immediacy of a moment, when a threat is very real and
very present such as being involved in an accident, or being under
any form of genuine threat, as opposed to the kinds of fears that we
hold within us and within our mind, such as fear of the unknown,
fear of failure, fear of catastrophe and disaster, fear of
abandonment, of loss and death… the list is endless.

The difference sits in ‘the fear of what might be’ as opposed to ‘the
fear of what is’.

This text is an extract from “Mindfulness Meets
Emotional Awareness, 7 Steps to Learn the Language of
your Emotions”.

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