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Do you ever find yourself saying Yes when really you should have
said No?
And then when you do say No you end up feeling guilty about this?
Sometimes the greatest gift that we can offer someone is to say No.
If I were a teacher with a class of 30 children and there was a bully
amongst them, it would be of absolute importance that I step in and
say No! But my No wouldn’t only be to ensure an environment of
protection and safety to the class. I would also be offering protection
to the bully as well.
My No would be accompanied with a desire to look more deeply and
discover the origins of their behavior.
We do no-one any favors if we allow their bad or inappropriate
behavior to continue.
By not acknowledging the problem we become complicit in
supporting their actions, denying them the opportunity to overcome
whatever difficulties have caused them to be this way in the first
place.
When our No is delivered with the strength of firm and loving
kindness we create a safety and we demonstrate a true value for all
concerned. We are demonstrating how to set clear and strong
boundaries, boundaries founded in love, respect and regard.
No is a boundary. A boundary that denotes care, compassion and
respect.
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