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at home. She needs a place where she can relax, doesn’t always have to be in control (although she will still be in control in many ways...:), and where she can go for reassurance, care, and a shoulder to cry on. (Trust me, if you can give this to Jenni, you will be a very happy person yourself.) If you can create this type of home, you are not only helping Jenni but also every single life she touches in her ministry. I failed to give her this type of comfort so I don’t want you to make the same mistake. (You got this.)
I LOVE that Jenni is clear about her calling to ministry. Since she was a little girl, she has had a deep sense of liberation, mysticism, wonder, and awe. She became a vegetarian in 4th grade (I believe?) because her huge heart couldn’t handle knowing her food was God’s living creature -- she cares that much. Her calling is nothing short of an expression of her core being. As her partner, please do not take for granted the gift of being close to someone who loves this much.
Finally, Jenni’s life is magical, which is obvious when you hear her many stories of encountering the Divine up close and personal. She is witchy – I mean ferocious Goddess level witchy. Honor this. Love this.
Job:
Jenni’s job is very demanding. She often works 6 days a week. She is not only providing regular pastoral care, but she also serves as an executive director, a preacher, a community activist, a manager, a mentor, and sometimes a punching bag. She is on call when there is a death. Even when she is on vacation, she receives calls asking for her advice, her leadership. She is BRILLIANT at this. She is showing up for people all day long and she needs a partner who understands this. (And she needs to know you understand it so tell her!) She has wounding from our relationship as well as her last major one when it comes to her partner wanting more of her time. A minister’s partner must understand that in order to have a happy partnership, it is essential that the minister’s partner have a full independent life outside of the relationship. Why? Because at different times of the year, the minister will have fewer emotional resources to offer. Advice: Make it clear that you understand that Jenni cannot always be there for you. Thank her for the times when she is there – let her know that you see all the