Page 202 - The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts

In the nine months that I counseled Brent and Becky,
we worked through numerous conflicts that they had never
resolved before. But the key to the rebirth of their marriage
was discovering each other’s primary love language and
choosing to speak it frequently.

Let me return to the question I raised in chapter 9. “What if
the love language of your spouse is something that doesn’t
come naturally for you?” I am often asked this question at
my marriage seminars, and my answer is, “So?”
My wife’s love language is “Acts of Service.” One of
the things I do for her regularly as an act of love is to
vacuum the floors. Do you think that vacuuming floors
comes naturally for me? My mother used to make me
vacuum. All through junior high and high school, I couldn’t
go play ball on Saturday until I finished vacuuming the entire
house. In those days, I said to myself, “When I get out of
here, one thing I am not going to do: I am not going to
vacuum houses. I’ll get myself a wife to do that.”
But I vacuum our house now, and I vacuum it regularly.
And there is only one reason I vacuum our house. Love.
You couldn’t pay me enough to vacuum a house, but I do it
for love. You see, when an action doesn’t come naturally to
you, it is a greater expression of love. My wife knows that
when I vacuum the house, it’s nothing but 100 percent pure,