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Brent about the issues in this book and explained the
difference between the experience of falling in love and the
deep emotional need to feel loved. I explained the five love
languages and challenged him to give his marriage another
chance. All the while, I knew that my intellectual and
reasoned approach to marriage compared to the
emotional high that he was experiencing was like pitting a
BB gun against an automatic weapon. He expressed
appreciation for my concern and asked that I do everything
possible to help Becky. But he assured me that he saw no
hope for the marriage.
One month later, I received a call from Brent. He
indicated that he would like to talk with me again. This time
when he entered my office he was noticeably disturbed. He
was not the calm, cool man I had seen before. His lover had
begun to come down off the emotional high, and she was
observing things in Brent that she did not like. She was
withdrawing from the relationship, and he was crushed.
Tears came to his eyes as he told me how much she meant
to him and how unbearable it was to experience her
rejection.
I listened sympathetically for an hour before Brent ever
asked for my advice. I told him how sympathetic I was to his
pain and indicated that what he was experiencing was the
natural emotional grief from a loss and that the grief would
not go away overnight. I explained, however, that the
experience was inevitable. I reminded him of the temporary
nature of the “in love experience,” that sooner or later, we