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always come down from the high to the real world. Some
fall out of love before they get married; others, after they get
married. He agreed that it was better now than later.
After some time, I suggested that perhaps the crisis
was a good time for him and his wife to get some marriage
counseling. I reminded him that true, long-lasting emotional
love is a choice and that emotional love could be reborn in
his marriage if he and his wife learned to love each other in
the right love languages. He agreed to marriage
counseling; and nine months later, Brent and Becky left my
office with a reborn marriage. When I saw Brent three years
later, he told me what a wonderful marriage he had and
thanked me for helping him at a crucial time in his life. He
told me that the grief over losing the other lover had been
gone for more than two years. He smiled and said, “My tank
has never been so full, and Becky is the happiest woman
you are ever going to meet.”
Fortunately Brent was the benefactor of what I call the
disequilibrium of the “in love experience.” That is, almost
never do two people fall in love on the same day, and
almost never do they fall out of love on the same day. You
don’t have to be a social scientist to discover that truth. Just
listen to country and western songs. Brent’s lover happened
to have fallen out of love at an opportune time.

When an action doesn’t come naturally to you, it is a
greater expression of love.