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and here you are washing and waxing the car.’”
“So did he paint the bedroom?” I inquired.
“No. It’s still not painted. I don’t know what to do.”
“Let me ask you a question,” I said. “Are you opposed
to clean, waxed cars?”
“No, but I want the bedroom painted.”
“Are you certain that your husband knows that you want
the bedroom painted?”
“I know he does,” she said. “I have been after him for
nine months.”
“Let me ask you one more question. Does your
husband ever do anything good?”
“Like what?”
“Oh, like taking the garbage out, or getting bugs off the
windshield of the car you drive, or putting gas in the car, or
paying the electric bill, or hanging up his coat?”
“Yes,” she said, “he does some of those things.”
“Then I have two suggestions. One, don’t ever mention
painting the bedroom again.” I repeated, “Don’t ever
mention it again.”
“I don’t see how that’s going to help,” she said.

The object of love is not getting something you want but
doing something for the well-being of the one you love. It
is a fact, however, that when we receive affirming words we
are far more likely to be motivated to reciprocate.