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By Pat Taylor
F My husband was my best friend, flesh of my flesh,
or me, losing a mate was one of the hardest
things I experienced. It feels like the uni-
verse exploded and the whole earth has
disappeared out from under your feet!
My husband and I were married twenty-five years
when he died in a car crash; however, it really
doesn’t matter if we were married two years or fif-
ty, my husband was the most vital part of my inner
core, and indispensable. After the accident, I was
forced to not only deal with the grieving process,
but also learn to live again by yourself.
In a book written by Cheryl McGuinness, the wife
of the pilot of American Airlines Flight 11, the first
plane flown into the World Trade towers, she
writes, “As unfair, unreasonable, and impossible as
it seems, we still have work to do after a tragedy
occurs. We still have roles to fill. We still have re-
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sponsibilities to family and others. The stuff of life
may pause for a while, but it doesn’t stop. Fair or not,
that is reality… The circumstances…have forced me
to examine who I am, to face myself in ways that I
never had to before, to ask, “What does God want for
me? What can I do in Him, by His power within me?
How will He use me to touch others?” I believe the
questions she asks are questions that we can all can
ask after a tragedy to help us guide our life into a
good future. I hope that the information in this book
will help you in the process of recovering from one of
the most difficult things that can happen to you: los-
ing a mate or a loved one.
There is a time and a season for all things. Each of us
are individuals and will use this information in a dif-
ferent way in order to heal from the grief of losing a
loved one. Everyone’s process is different, so don’t
allow this information to raise unnecessary expecta-
tions or make you think you have to do it all at once,
or before you are ready. This is a process, not an
event and it’s also not a race! During special times of
the year, such as birthdays or the holidays, one may
find it more difficult to cope then other times of the
year, so don’t be hard one yourself if you feel you
have already overcome some areas and feel a re-
lapse. It’s natural, so please don’t be hard on your-
self.
bone of my bone. Due to childhood experiences, he
was the only man I had ever trusted…nearly the only
person! He was my security! At the time of his sud-
den death, I didn’t see how I could live without him!
It seemed impossible, but I knew God had not desert-
ed me. I knew that His promises would take me
through, I just had to hold on to my faith.
It took me years to finally realize that God had a plan
for my new life! He helped me rebuild, and He made
my new life a good one, because I was able to realize
His presence was upon me. I maintained the right at-
titude and allowed the Holy Spirit to lead me in my
decisions.
As I began to step into my new life, the Lord gave me
eight steps that were vital to my healing process. He