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DATING CORNER

3 Scientific Ways Men and Women

Promote Miscommunication in Marriage

(www.allprodad.com)
“D their heads to listen with their ear. But talk to find solutions. For many women,
id you hear me?” “Are

according to Deborah Tannen, author
you listening?” “You
talking does not require finding solutions.
didn’t hear a word I
Sharing ideas and validating feelings are
tilt sends a signal to your wife that
said.” Men have heard these phrases of You Just Don’t Understand, the head The solution is the actual conversation.
numerous times. We know effective you’re not listening. There is a simple healing experiences for women. Men uti-
communication begins with lis- lize “talk” differently, though—to
tening. We’ve all done that train- establish authority. Conversation is
ing at some point in our careers. like a ping pong game we want to

But we are not told that men and win. As men, we can fix this miscom-
women naturally communicate munication in marriage by abandon-
differently. Both sexes tend to be ing the instinct to solve a problem

unaware of these subtle differ- and open ourselves up to empathy.
ences, which is the source of Independence
many arguments and results in Men make decisions without consult-

miscommunication in marriage. ing their wives to maintain independ-
The reality is that men and wom- ence while women like to consult to
en are complements of one an- maintain intimacy in the relationship.

other, which explains why we If you want to become a better com-
communicate differently. As men, municator with your spouse, consult
Source:Pinterest
if we become self-aware of our her on a decision before you make it.
natural way of communicating, we will solution to this miscommunication in Also, let her know in what areas you pre-
break ground on building stronger re- marriage. If you know your wife needs fer independence. It is a two-way
lationships with our wives and limit eye contact to feel heard, then make eye street, and you have to understand
miscommunication. Here is how your contact with her when she’s talking.
that she probably does not know your
communication skills get you in trou- Doing so might even make you a better
natural preferences for communica-
ble with your wife and what you can listener.
tion, either. But here is the kicker: If
do about it. Talking
you communicate your communica-
Listening “Women talk to seek intimacy while
tion preferences, you can begin to un-
Women prefer direct eye contact to men talk to find solutions.”
signify listening while men prefer to tilt Women talk to seek intimacy while men derstand each other.

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