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CORE
Relationships and family
Pleasant words make huge difference Other parties’ intervention is unacceptable
Dr. Al Demerdash advises people to Dr. Al Demerdash is against the couples’
convince their partners to visit a relationship families’ intervention in their relationship. She
coach through an affectionate dialogue rather further explains that families have traditional
than an ordering tone. She further illustrates thoughts about marriage that are mostly wrong,
saying that the partner can convince his/her so their intervention demolishes the coaches’
partner by saying: “I love you, and I want to learn efforts in changing the couples’ vision about their
how to make you happy, so what about helping relationship. She believes that the families are
me to improve our life together through visiting a key contributors in most of the divorce cases.
relationship coach?” She says that after divorce, the couples’ parents
Ahmed says: “After resorting to Dr. Al must seek support from a relationship coach to
Demerdash, I realized that I was using the wrong learn how to deal with their divorced son/
language with Sara, as I used to convince her daughter.
to consult a relationship coach through ordering “Children must be totally isolated from any
her, and sometimes we ended up fighting.” problem between their parents,” Dr. Al Demerdsh
Planning for the worst case scenario says. Talking about the psychological health of
“Once the couples decide that they will get the children, she says that any rehabilitation
divorced, I start formulating a supportive plan for process for the children either during the
the couples after divorce to improve their marriage of their parents or after divorce must be
psychological health, help them move on, and done separately from their parent’s program. She
share with them a future vision,” Dr. Al has not witnessed any divorce case that has a
Demerdash says. positive effect on the children. She says that
Sara says that Dr. Al Demerdash has been quite engaging teenagers in the problems of their
supportive during the program, as she has been parents leads to Gamophobia, fear of marriage
reaffirming on her support to Sara regardless of and commitment. “Family coaching rehabilitation
her decision. Sara says: “In the beginning, Dr. Al programs for children include discussing their
Demerdash showed me all the possible options, problems, proposing solutions, and teaching
and offered me a well- structured plan for all the parents how to deal with them,” Dr. Al
scenarios.” Demerdash says.
Ahmed says: “Dr. Al Demerdash did not rush To conclude, Dr. Al Demerdash says: “Life
us or direct us towards certain decision.” He says between the married couples must be like the
that the best thing about relationship coaching Ping-Pong match. where each player must learn
is that it offers alternative plans to support the how to pass the ball not only receive the ball.
couples in all situations.
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