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Nothing drives a manipulator up the wall than to see you go against
what they want, especially since they’re expecting you to listen
anyway because “they told you so”.
Being Inattentive - Not paying attention to the conversation
makes the speaker feel - you guessed it - like they don’t matter.
Or like what they have to say isn’t important enough to be worth
your time. Here’s an example of how you might use this
technique against a manipulator:
Manipulator: I am so frustrated that NOBODY helps me around the
office when all I do is go out of my way to try and help everyone else
when they need it (they’re trying to guilt you into taking on their
workload).
How you would invalidate them: The progress on the group project is
going really great, don’t you think?
By not acknowledging what they’re trying to do, you’re invalidating
their tactics, and letting them know you’re aware of what they’re
trying to do, and you’re choosing not to go along with it anyway.
Being Belligerent - By rebutting rather than listening, you’re
invalidating the manipulator’s efforts in trying to get you to see
things their way (so you’re more inclined to do what they want).
Here’s an example of what this technique might look like:
