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www.i-am-magazine.com21Why Do You Use Anger To TemporarilyFight This Fear?When we feel unloved, or in other wordsrejected, we could feel scared.To combat this fear, we try to besignificant (special, needed, wanted) toEARN love & connection.People try to be significant in three mainways:1. Being a Helper: Putting everybody firstand themselves last because who can%u2019thelp but love someone that doessomething as significant as that?2. Being an Achiever: Wow, he has aFerrari! Amazing, did you see how goodshe looks? How much money did you sayhe makes from his business?!Who can%u2019t admire someone who haseverything you want too, right? TheseAchievers translate admiration withsignificance, and if they%u2019re so admired,who can%u2019t help but love them, right?3. Being an Individualist: Being sodifferent & unique, you%u2019re significant,right? You stand out from the crowd, soyou must be someone special.Being special & unique, people notice you,which you can translate to being loved.Now, what can you do when you do allthese strategies and people STILL don%u2019tnotice you?Get angry!What?Yes, get angry.Because when you get ANGRY, peoplenotice you, right?And when you get ANGRY, how do youfeel in your body? A lot stronger thanyou did a few seconds ago, right?