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might select options that are totally out of character for you. So what? Be
out of character. Being out of character might help you blow your act, and
by now you recognize the minimal value of your act anyway. Play.

If your tendency has been to behave timidly when given a compliment,

consider playing with another option. The next time someone so much as
implies it’s good to know you, take a deep breath and enjoy the moment.
You might even announce, “That feels good! Tell me more.” Change for a
change. Fool around.

If, when in conflict with others, your habit has been to scare yourself
into stifling your anger, look your fear squarely in the eye and ask yourself
what’s the worst that can happen if you express yourself. Consider honestly
describing your current experience. You might, for example, try out your

version of one or any combination of these statements:

“There is something that I want to say to you, but I’m afraid that you
will throw a fit. Are you willing to hear me out?”

“I’m angry with you. What is also true is that I respect you and value
our relationship.”