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José Paulo – Ideal Decision José Paulo – Ideal Decision

so, first of all, you need a lot of dialogue and alignment. the same belief system is extremely important for a smooth daily

The best option is to replace your own will for the gain of doing routine.
something together. This does not guarantee love and happiness, Belonging to different beliefs can be exhausting, because a mar-
but it sure helps, because both will be looking at the same horizon. riage requires renunciation in many areas of life, and faith is not
This is a huge exercise of complicity, respect, tolerance, and a two- negotiable, as it is something profound. As a Christian, life is my
-way street of gratitude. mission and in my marriage, I believe God is the one who unites
my purposes and my wife’s, so there is no point in getting married
It is necessary to keep in mind that objectives can change or
fail, but when the couple is in agreement, they help each other to to someone who does not believe in what we worship. The minori-

change or to overcome what it takes, because they were together ty is willing to renounce its own faith, and if the values are not the
step by step. same, the relationship will not last.
Even if there is respect for the faith of the other, some compli-
To evaluate the objectives prior to initiating a marriage is cru-
cial – aspirations and expectations must be compatible. Some di- cation will show eventually. For example, will the children follow
fferences go beyond the dating phase, but when you get married the mother’s or father’s faith? On days of worship, meetings or re-
the commitment is extraordinarily strong. Here comes the need to ligious commitments does each one goes to different sides? Where
have a common life plan, because it brings a common life purpose is the same objective in the main pillar of a home?
and the joy of achieving something together. Marriage must not be based only in the physical union, but also

Understanding each other’s point of view is key. Put projects in the spiritual union, then life will be complete in all aspects. It
and plans on paper and analyze which will be more beneficial to is healthy and beautiful to see a couple who meditates, prays, and
the couple’s life and then walk together towards victories. One will worships together.
always have to give up on one’s project but take this opportunity
to go hand in hand with your partner to a common project. - To Like with the Same Intensity

When I say to like with the same intensity, I mean to love with
- Same Religion the same “strength”, to be matched in the same way you dedicate
Every day we coexist with people from different religions, at to each other. The relationship gets unbalanced when one is more
the workplace, at school, college and groups of friends, the respect dedicated to the other; the reciprocity must be clear on this point,
always prevails. However, when it comes to marriage, this conci- of course, respecting the characteristics of each one. Love and pas-
liation can be complicated and even exhausting. Once more I talk sion are two distinct things and most of the relationships that do
about the balance in the relationship. We talked about having the not last, it is because one loved and the another one was in love –
same social status, same educational level and same objectives, and the problem is that love lasts, but passion is fleeting. It is common,
in a wedding ceremony, to hear: to promise to hold in sickness and

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