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Notes on Conversations

Here’s some quick, practical advice about how to lead these sessions so
they’re of the most benefit for the Jesus-follower you’re discipling, and for
you, too.

1
Review the expectations covered in the Introduction—

perhaps several times.
It’s okay to look them over every few sessions with the person
you’re discipling to ask if you’re holding up your end of the
bargain.
Which opens up the opportunity to give some feedback to the Jesus-
follower you’re discipling, too.
The boundaries and expectations expressed in the Introduction are
there because we’ve found—in the context of thousands of discipling rela-

tionships—they’re important and need to be respected. Ignore them and
you’ll shortchange the person you’re discipling—and yourself.

2
Remember: You’re not the “Answer Person.”
It’s not your role to have all the answers. Your role is to facilitate
growth by prayerfully cooperating with what Jesus is doing in the

life of the person you’re discipling.
Which means sometimes the best thing you can do is stay out of
the way. Jesus is doing the discipling; you’re helping.
Keep Jesus in focus at all times. The best thing you can do for oth-
ers is to help them draw closer to Jesus; ask him to give you a sensitivity
to what he’s doing throughout your sessions.

3

Do the Stretch Activities.

Even if you’ve discipled a dozen people, do the activities each
and every time. You’re modeling what “all-in” looks like, and

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