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Having said all of this, separation may not always be the end result of your soul searching. Your life should contain the true adventure of love, when you feel
genuinely happy in the key areas of your life with your partner. When you are both absolutely open and honest with each other, are happy that you will grow and
contribute equally to the relationship together, you may find that true happiness, for more of your life, is a real possibility. Only you will know your own
circumstances and truths of your relationship. Love isn’t something we do to get a result, it’s an action that should fill you with joy and fulfils its own purpose
in each moment it is experienced.

It will always be challenging, true love always is. You should always be growing, true love delivers growth. Most of all, the love you share should deliver true
happiness and peace.

Ultimately, all that matters is your own true happiness and what you think of your relationship, not what any questionnaire might reveal.

Character versus personality

One of the most important and valuable lessons we can learn, is appreciation of the difference between character as opposed to mere personality traits.
There is a massive difference between personality and character. Personality is what we see on the surface and initially attracts us, a sense of humour,
good taste communication skills, soft devoted caring nature etc.

Whilst these traits are enjoyable, they are NOT what will determine true happiness in any relationship. For that we must look for CHARACTER.

Character goes much deeper, how a person treats themselves, you and the relationship. Their degree of commitment and ability to make necessary changes in
themselves (growth) for the good of the relationship. The character of the individuals will ultimately influence the foundation of the partnership. Personality is
the icing, individuality and independence of character is the substance. Knowing the building blocks of character helps us to determine, in advance, how
successful or stressful a relationship will be, depending on the state of readiness of the individuals to develop good character as opposed to merely pleasing
personality traits.

It is so common that the stronger partner wants to work on the relationship while the other may be reluctant, fearing change may threaten their future. The
stronger one wants to talk about areas in need of improvement, the other is in denial that an issue even exists.

So, what are the six qualities that indicate character?

1. Commitment to personal growth

To learning everything he can to be a better person and better partner. An adventure of personal growth rather than a constant power struggle. A relationship Page405
cannot work if one partner refuses to seek help when needed or to hear the words of his partner. He needs his own goals for self improvement and you can see
specific, positive changes over the years. Little or no change = little or no growth.