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THE RELIGION OF THE IGNORANT

invested in them by their families since they were very young. A
good marriage is essential, both for one's immediate circle, for one-
self and for one's family. Once they have met, if the two sides regard
each other's social status, clothes, makes of cars and addresses as
suitable, dinner and a date are set up. The process of selecting
clothes for this date is rather lengthy. Both parties spend a long time
wondering what to wear. Indeed, their friends and family also in-
volve themselves in the process, and the outfit to be worn is a joint
decision.
Not much time is required for the parties to be convinced on
the subject of marriage. The woman will marry if she thinks that the
man is sufficiently well off. The man needs to be convinced that she
will represent him properly in business or social circles, and will
make a good impression on his arm. An engagement is decided on,
which means society's validation of dating.
Right from the outset, insincerity is the distinguishing feature
of the whole business. The man stretches his limited means by pur-
chasing flowers and gifs, trying to impress the girl and her family
that he is prosperous and generous. Marrying her depends on creat-
ing a good impression about his financial means. There is absolutely
no hesitation over expenditure in this period, because any costs in-
curred now will be returned to the couple in the form of a house,
money, clothes, and prestige. The family soon sets up a kind of pub-
lic-opinion poll regarding the prospective bridegroom. Everybody's
thoughts concerning him are canvassed. The real aim is to find an
answer to the question of Is this candidate well liked by everyone
around? Information is obtained about the prospective groom's in-
come level and property, and is shared. If his financial position is
sound, then his external appearances and moral values are much
less important.

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