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Video is too important to ‘wing it’. And there is more to video than
‘just doing it’. To have a real impact and leave a lasting impression
you need to take the journey!

Elaine spent 18 years as a Juilliard-trained professional actor and
medicine and home fragrance.
22 years in marketing and sales as a consultant, company
spokesperson, and educator in such diverse fields as concierge

With her unique lens and depth of experience, Elaine brings you into
focus and gives you the tools to make the most of the medium,
and become more credible, watchable, and compelling in the video.

By Elaine Hausman

All my life I have desperately wanted to think for myself. To defy conventional wisdom. To
discover the truth for me.

I came into the world saying, “you're not doing it right”.

This included everything from parenting, to how the world viewed the roles of men and women
and their relationship to one another.

From the time I was twelve, I knew I wanted to be an actress and that would be my answer when
anyone asked what I wanted to be when I grew up. Yet when they asked me, “Are you in the
school play?”, I could feel myself bristle as I answered, "I’m not going to study until I'm taught by
professionals."

What child says that? Was I a snob? Was I defiant? Maybe. Or was I a child who simply wanted to
learn on their own terms, to find their own path, to create a world as they saw it. So maybe not.

I did indeed become an actress and like most professions, or truly anything in life, was faced with
what was supposedly 'the right way to do something’. And despite the pain and insecurity that
came from trying to meet that standard, I never could.

I had no choice. To experience creativity, connection, or fulfillment l could only do what was
organic for me. Even at the risk of never achieving success.

And when I looked back, as much as I was considered a ‘difficult child', I grew up. I was fortunate
to have a family willing to be educated on how I wanted to be treated, how I wanted to traverse
the world, and I gained their respect and even their admiration.

When I reflected on the words 'you're not doing it right', I recognized what I really meant was
'you're not doing it right' for me. That no one was to blame. In fact, it had been my job to use
those obstacles to become all I could be.

So that is the moral. There is no one way. No one size fits all.

There will always be the latest 'thought leader' telling me what is right, but I learned a long time
ago I have the choice to grab whatever I find worthwhile, or not. I get to choose. Standing firm in
knowing who I am, how I create, how I achieve, and what I find relevant.

Elaine Hausman
Video Performance Coaching & Image Strategy iNETrepreneur Magazine | Page 15
https://elainehausman.com
Email: elaine@elainehausman.com