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DARE TO BE A.L.I.V.E. - DON’T BE A D.A.S.H.

Using your own words or the words above, complete these sentences:

When I experience this undesirable Activating Event or Adversity, I
inappropriately feel... (Example: humiliated, ashamed).

Consider what you would like to be feeling more of.

Instead, I would like to appropriately feel... (Example: sorry, regretful).

How appropriate are your negative feelings to the undesirable Activating
Event? Check one.

[ ] Very appropriate

[ ] Somewhat appropriate

[ ] Somewhat inappropriate

[ ] Very inappropriate

If your feelings (C) are either somewhat or very inappropriate, you can use
ALIVE CODE to change your feelings. But changing your feelings may take
·some hard work and risks on your part. For now, just admit what your
feelings are and acknowledge that they may seriously interfere with
achieving your Goals.

There are several ways that you can effectively deal with your feelings. Check
each approach that will be helpful in your case.

[ ] FEELING REPLACEMENT: Replacing inappropriate negative feelings with
appropriate pleasant feelings. For example, if you are experiencing ongoing
C
anger at someone (at point ) and continually thinking about some unfair
A
thing a friend did (at point ), you can begin to directly replace your feelings
of anger with more pleasant feelings, such as forgiveness.

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