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Your current Attitudes:
1. Describe the things that please you most?
2. What things “get on your nerves”?
3. What are some of the triggers that cause you to get angry?
4. What triggers depression or sadness in you?
5. What are you looking for in a mate?
6. What kind of affection should be shown only to your mate?
7. What kinds of affection shown to the opposite sex by your mate after marriage is off limits?
8. What books have you read on the subject of marriage in general?
9. Are you a flexible person?
10. Do you have the same interests?
11. What is your attitude toward household chores?
12. Do you have the same moral standards?
13. What are our same general interests, tastes, habits?
14. Do we both share in the same dreams and goals for our life?
15. In the last week, how have I shown my selfishness?
16. When do I tend to be moody? What do I need to change that mood?
17. Describe a time when you faced hardship and yet you made the best out of the difficult situation.
18. Describe situations in which you showed you were able to carry responsibility.
19. What discourages me?
20. Am I ready to make sacrifices for the other without feeling like a martyr?
21. Has our love grown stronger even when we have discovered the weaknesses of the other?
22. In what area am I afraid to trust you?
23. Will I be willing to live on the income of a missionary?
24. What is the greatest hindrance in our communication?
25. What boundaries do you believe ought to apply to internet use?
26. What boundaries and etiquette do you believe ought to apply to cell phone use?
27. What boundaries will you have to protect yourself and your family members from pornography?

Adjustments to your relationship:
1. What causes personality clashes?
2. What are the boundaries that you have set for your relationship?
3. What kind of boundaries is it ok for me to have even though we are married?
4. How does your personality differ from your mate’s personality?
5. List and consider all the ways your personality could grate on the other person.
6. List and consider all the ways your personality will compliment and encourage the other person.
7. Are you a loyal person and how do you show loyalty?
8. Are you a person who holds confidences?
9. Are you willing to keep the other informed regarding schedules and whereabouts?
10. Do you see yourself as devoting your leisure time to the family rather than former chums?
11. What are the things that attract you to each other?
12. What irritates you most about his/her conduct?
13. Are you bothered by each other’s manners? (Sloppy, eating, etc.)
14. Do you like the way each other dresses or would you like some things to improve?
15. Do you have a sense of humor?
16. Are you easily offended?
17. What are your love languages and how will you show love to your spouse?
18. Am I a sentimental person who wants to have special gifts from the other person?
19. How will you deal with past indiscretions on the part of your partner?
20. How will we deal with challenges and tragedies (like infertility or death of a child)?
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