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Appendix A

Reading for Family Life Class

“Love and Respect: The Respect He Desperately Needs” by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

Questions for Assessing your Preparedness for Marriage

Please write out your answers to these questions. Feel free to discuss your answers to these questions with
someone else before you write them down. This will help you clarify your thinking as you hear the views of
other people. Hearing their answers will help you think of new areas. Hearing their responses to your
thinking will give you an outside view of yourself and help you clarify your thinking.

Your answers must be more than a few sentences of very limited depth. In order to get a good grade you
must do some honest and deep thinking and be open and somewhat transparent. We want to see evidence
that you are growing and developing in these areas as a result of these assignments.

I. Your View of Marriage:
A. Your general views of marriage:
1. Honestly, what is your view of marriage? (do you have a positive view or negative view?) Why?
2. How important is having a good marriage to your life? Why?
3. How important is having a good marriage to your ministry?
4. What will it take for you to have a good marriage?
B. In seeing your parents relate with each other:
1. What was good about how they related to each other?
2. What was negative?
3. How did that affect you?
C. The Effects of previous dating:
1. How have your experiences of previous dating affected your view of marriage?
2. How have your experiences here at the college affected your view of marriage?
D. Accepting your mate
E. Accepting yourself first.
3. What should you accept about yourself? What, that you should accept about yourself, are you
struggling to accept? What should you be doing to accomplish this?
4. What should you not accept about yourself and therefore change about yourself?
5. What kind of person do you need to become in order to attract the kind of person you want to
marry?
6. What kind of person do you need to become in order to have the kind of person you want to
marry actually be willing to marry you?
7. What does the Bible say about who God made you to be?
8. What does the Bible say about who you are in Christ?
9. How should your answers to the previous two questions affect your view of yourself? How can
you actually change your view of yourself to match what the Bible says?
F. Accepting about your date:
10. On a scale of 1 to 10 how perfect do you expect your date to be?
11. What are you willing to accept about your date?
12. What should you not accept about your date?

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