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1 Timothy 3:4–5 “He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him,
and he must do so in a manner worthy of full respect.” (If anyone does not know how
to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?)

As husbands, we need to serve our wife and make her feel secure. No one in the world can do this for your
wife but you. Serve your children. Let them know that dad is there for them. They should feel secure around
you because you are there for them.

With “understanding” means to have intimate perception.

1 Peter 3:7 “Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives and treat
them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of
life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.”

Giving honor means to value her through “portions of preciousness”. As a husband you are to show your
wife honor by giving her gifts of words, compliments, and help that show her you love her.

The head is to be the spiritual leader who nurtures his wife to become blameless, holy, and glorious.

Ephesians 5:25–27 “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave
himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through
the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or
any other blemish, but holy and blameless.”

The word “Glorious” means to be “utterly gorgeous”.

How do you know what kind of head you are? Look at what has happened to your wife. Before marriage she
was a blossoming young lady. Has she continued to blossom or is she wilting? Is she happy and full of life
and love or is her countenance sad and depressed?

As an alumni couple returned to a college reunion, the woman who was the Dean of the college said to the
wife, “You have become beautiful in every way. You are more beautiful today than when you attended this
college as a younger lady. Then she looked at the husband and said, “You are the one who did that”.

If you are concentrating on making your wife into this gorgeous and happy person, you will fall in love with
her more and more every day. You will not be tempted with another woman.

The word “blameless” means without fault in character and conduct. “Holy” means separated from sin and
consecrated to God. “Glorious” means to be held in high honor and is radiantly gorgeous. Praying tenderly
for your wife and praying together with her will reap great results.

Being a biblical husband requires a decision of the will and supernatural empowerment to love your wife
with unconditional love and to lead her as a servant leader. But this is our job from God. We must take this
seriously. If we do, we will have a wonderful married life here on earth and many more rewards in heaven
for obeying God’s commands.

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