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A wife needs romance from her husband. She desires to be loved, hugged and kissed without the pressure
to have sex. If every time a husband kisses his wife, he is communicating that he wants sex, she will start to
resent his kisses.

Song of Solomon 4:10 “How delightful is your love, my sister, my bride! How much more
pleasing is your love than wine, and the fragrance of your perfume more than any
spice!”

A husband’s sexual desire should remind him to be “nice to his wife”. A husband gives emotional love in
order to receive sex, and a wife gives sex in order to receive emotional love. This is the perfect standoff in
the sense that it leads to the fulfillment of each other's needs.

Learn to flirt. It is OK to lighten the mood a bit by flirting with each other outside of the bedroom. Discreetly
mentioning your desires can help build excitement and anticipation for the big moment.

A wife needs privacy.
Song of Solomon 7:12 Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded, if
their blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates are in bloom - there I will give
you my love.

She must feel her love making is safe and private. Many times, wives are fearful of being interrupted during
intimate times by children's needs. A wise husband will do all he can to prevent interruptions.

A wife needs time in preparation for the physical relationship.

Song of Solomon 4:6 Until the day breaks and the shadows flee, I will go to the mountain
of myrrh and to the hill of incense.

Studies show at the average wife needs seven to fourteen minutes of physical stimulation to reach orgasm
while the average man needs only two minutes. As you can see, we have a math problem. The husband
needs to slow down and patiently bring fulfillment to his wife.

Men, it is important that you plan ahead for an intimate time with your wives. It is important that you work
on your emotional relationship with your wife all day as part of the preparation. It is said that for the wife,
sex begins in the kitchen, rather than in the bedroom. A wise husband will help his wife with the kitchen
chores, lovingly communicate with her, compliment her, romance her, and prepare her for a physical
relationship, all before entering the bedroom.

Song of Solomon 1:2 Let him kiss me with the kisses
of his mouth— for your love is more delightful
than wine.

Song of Solomon 7:7–8 Your stature is like that of
the palm, and your breasts like clusters of fruit. I
said, “I will climb the palm tree; I will take hold
of its fruit.” May your breasts be like clusters of
grapes on the vine, the fragrance of your breath
like apples,

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