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In cases where you find that someone is not able to build a healthy foundation with you, that should be a
clear sign of how things will always be unless that person shows significant change. The only way for
people to grow is to face their insecurities. You must grow to grow. There is no other way. If someone is
not willing to grow on their own, they are not ready and even worse, willing to face who they are. You
are wasting your time.

And that can be mentally and emotionally dangerous to your mental and emotional well-being because
the energy that is created by toxic, avoidance behavior is a poison that kills love, your dreams, steals
your hope, your confidence, clouds your focus, and makes you feel depressed, unloved, and victimized.
Relations is an aspect or quality that connects two or more things or parts as being or belonging or
working together. If someone refuses to do their part, they have abandoned the relationship.

The stress from dealing with toxic behavior can also affect your health if you do not identify it and
accept it for what it is. Know when to work with a person who is doing the work to grow or eliminate
them and their toxic energy from your environment if they are not.

Be aware and manage the energy that you allow to come into your life. Toxic energy does not magically
transform or go away. You must identify toxic behaviors and address them in yourself or with others to
rid your environment of toxic energy.

Back to the article:
React vs. Respond Quotes

Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it.
— Charles Swindoll

Response requires the individual to thoroughly evaluate his actions and then arrive at a decision. This
automatically puts him or her in a better position.

To every action, there is always opposed an equal reaction.

— Isaac Newton

This quote applies to daily life just as much as it applies to science. The way we react determines the
reactions that we can expect in the future.

Take-Home Message

The path to leading a responsible life is difficult simply because the urge to react is always
extraordinarily strong. But each time you experience this urge, you need to take a step back and

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