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Here's a new definition: being responsible means having the ability to respond. Respond to
the real problem, to your true needs. It does not mean you or your partner are to blame.
There is tremendous power in claiming your creation. If you have been snippy to your
partner, own up to it and say sorry. You will be amazed at how this works.

9. Appreciate yourself and your partner.

In the midst of an argument, it can be difficult to find something to appreciate. Start by
generating appreciation in moments of non-stress. That way, generating appreciation during
a stressful time will be easier.

To appreciate is to be sensitively aware. Tell your beloved that you love them and that you
are coming from a loving place when you are arguing about something you are passionate
about.

10. Admit your mistakes and say sorry.

Right after a misunderstanding or argument, ask your partner to give you both some time to
think about the things that caused the argument. Talk to each other for 10-15 minutes. Ask
your partner to give you time to talk and explain to them why you were angry, then admit to
the wrong things you did. Then, tell them the things they did that you did not like, and let
them know what you would like them to change. Ask your partner to do the same thing and
give them a fair chance to talk and explain also. This will make the communication in your
relationship stronger.

11. Spend some quality time together.

No matter how busy you two are, there is always excitement when you do something
together, when you share your precious time. Play a sport, eat at a restaurant, or watch your
favorite movies together. You will feel the magic of love and connection that brought you
together in the first place.

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