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somber and funny at the same time?                        them give you feedback. Become
          Writing and delivering a eulogy is                        familiar with your speech so you can
          a therapeutic tool to help deal with                      recite without making it look you’re
          your grief, and being chosen to give                      reading from a script. The more you
          a eulogy is an honor and should be                        practice the more comfortable you
          treated that way. Here are some tips                      will be. Make them laugh, but be
          for writing and delivering an eloquent                    respectful. A funeral is not a roast,
          and memorable eulogy.                                     however there is room for humor
                                                                    in your eulogy. Fondly remember a
          Gather information. Talk with family                      story about the person that everyone
          members, close friends and co-                            can relate too. Keep it appropriate,
          workers to get important information                      there will be children and the elderly
          on  the  deceased.  Some  important                       there that may not share the same
          information to include in the eulogy                      sense of humor. Laughter is truly the
          is the person’s family and other close                    best medicine, and some well-placed
          relationships,  their  education/career,                  humor will help people cope, and
          hobbies  or  special  interests,  places                  will bring back fond memories of the
          the person lived or travelled too, and                    deceased.
          any special accomplishments they
          had.                                                      Don’t be  afraid  to  show  emotion.
 most part remains can be buried in a   sand and are whitish to light grey   Organize your thoughts. Jot down   Funerals  are  an  extremely  emotional
 cemetery lot or a cremation garden,   in  color.    The  remains  of  an  average   your ideas  by whatever means are   event, nobody expects you not to
 interred in a columbarium, kept at   sized adult usually weigh between 7   most comfortable and familiar to you.   shed a few tears. However, if you feel
 home or scattered.   and 8 pounds.    Create an outline of  your speech,   that you will be too strongly overcome
          and fill in the information that you                      by your emotions, have a back-up
          gathered about the person.                                plan in place where someone you
 How can I be sure I receive the correct   Are  all  the  cremated  remains
 remains?   returned?                                               trust can deliver the eulogy for you.
 All reputable cremation providers   With the exception of minute and   Write it down. This is not a toast at a   Give  them a  copy  well  in advance  if
 have developed rigorous sets of   microscopic particles, which are   wedding where you can make off the   you feel this could be an issue.
 operating policies and procedures in   impossible to remove from the   cuff remarks, and you should not adlib
 order to maximize the level of service   cremation chamber and processing   a eulogy. Writing it all down allows   Have a glass of water as well as
 and minimize the potential for human   machine, all of the cremated remains   you to include and remember every   tissues handy.
 error. Since it is illegal to perform   are given back to the family.   detail you wanted in your eulogy.
 more  than  one  cremation  at  a  time,   When you bring a copy of your eulogy   Obituaries and Death
 and the vast majority of crematories   Do I need an urn?   to the podium make sure it is easy to
 can only cremate one body at a time,   An urn is not required by law. However,   read, print it out in a large font, or   Notices
 it is next to impossible to receive the   an urn may be desired if there is to be   if hand-written leave a few spaces   Occasionally  a  newspaper  will
 incorrect remains.   a memorial service of if the remains   between the lines. Keep in mind your   consider the passing of a loved one
 are to be interred in a cemetery. If   time constraints, it’s best to keep   as newsworthy. In this situation, the
 How long does the actual cremation   an urn is not purchased or provided   things on the short side, especially if   newspaper will print an obituary at
 take?   by the family, the cremated remains   there are other speakers.   no cost to the family, a death notice
 It all depends on the weight of the   will be returned in a temporary plastic      is a means by which the family uses
 individual. For an average sized adult,   container.   Review and Revise. Your first draft will   the newspaper to inform relatives
 cremation can take two to three hours   not be the last. When you think you   and friends of the passing. The family
 at a normal operating temperature   are done, sleep on it and look it over   is charged for the death notice, and
 of between 1000 and 2000 degrees   Eulogies   in the morning when it is fresh again,   the timing of the print is usually the
 Fahrenheit.   Giving a meaningful, moving eulogy   Practice, Practice, Practice. Read over   day before the planned arrangements
 can be a nerve-wracking situation for   your eulogy several times in order   begin. The death notice will contain
 even the most accomplished public   to become familiar with it. Practice
 What do the cremated remains look                                  the name of the deceased, age,
 like?   speaker, but it need not be. How can   in front of a mirror, read it over to   where they are from, date of passing,
 Cremated remains resemble coarse   you summarize somebody’s life in a   some friends or family and have   relations, arrangements, service date,
 few  short  minutes,  while  being  both




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