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control. You will be faced with making time to take a personal inventory and
many decisions regarding your future, reassess your beliefs and values. You
both personal and financial. Take time may find great comfort in your faith
making major decisions. Begin slowly. community as you look for meaning.
Handle projects in small increments You will discover new strengths and
of time. This will help build your talents. Trust your heart.
confidence and prove that you are
making progress. Create new routines and rituals
Develop new routines and patterns
Put the clothes away when you are as you search for the new you.
ready. Do not let others push you to Acknowledge the empty chair and
make decisions you are uncomfortable move it. Rearrange your furniture and
making. create a space just for you. Exercise
at a specific time each day. Journal
As you are getting your finances in and make an entry daily. Daily
order, get your other affairs in order patterns will help you develop your
to. Change insurance beneficiaries. new identity and find a new normal.
Check your health and other insurance
policies. Discuss your own funeral Find ways to remember the life of
arrangements with your family and your loved one daily. You do not
cannot bring the person back or Mood swings are normal. funeral director. Taking care of life’s have to say goodbye. It is important
change the situation. It is natural to “paperwork” can help restore a sense to acknowledge the change in your
feel vulnerable. Through information, Guilt can be one of the hardest of control and give you peace of mind. relationship. You do not stop loving
we gain a sense of understanding. emotions to deal with and it may someone just because they have died.
Through understanding, we gain a last a long time. Self blame and Be patient with yourself You can still maintain a relationship
sense of control. doubt add to the pain of grief. This Grieving takes time. It takes far longer in your heart. They are a part of who
can make it difficult to share with than anyone expects, particularly you. you are and who you are becoming.
Seek out information about grief, others. Talking about your feelings You really don’t ever get “over it” but
everyone grieves differently. Our or keeping a journal often helps you you can get “through it”. This loss is a Reach out to others
cultural and religious experiences, gain perspective and insight. There part of your life. Be assured, you will Develop new routines and patterns
the circumstances of the death and is no right or wrong feelings in grief, not always feel as you do right now. as you search for the new you.
our relationship with the person who there are just your feelings. Listen to yourself and go forward at Acknowledge the empty chair and
died influence our reactions to grief. your own pace. Don’t be surprised move it. Rearrange your furniture and
If someone dies after a long illness, Take care of yourself when grief shows up again. Just when create a space just for you. Reach out
there may be a momentary sense of Have compassion and take care of you think you might be doing better, to others. Learn to ask for what you
relief that the pain is over. If a death yourself. Eat properly, get enough you may find yourself crying in the need. Your family and friends want to
is sudden and unexpected, shock and rest and exercise. Grief causes grocery store or when you hear a help, so let them know how. Turn to
a feeling of numbness may occur. If a tremendous stress on your body. It specific song on the radio. Anger and people you can trust for support and
young person attacks even the strongest immune guilt can strike anywhere at any time. for information. Find people who will
dies there is a sense that things are system. You may catch more colds, Forgive yourself for living when your listen when you want to talk. Leave
out of order and that life is not the experience headaches or muscle loved one did not. the scrapbook or photo album out
way it is supposed to be. aches. Taking care of yourself is more on the coffee table so others can
than important now than ever before. Find yourself remember and share memories with
What you can do You might try some deep breathing Grief has changed your life completely. you.
Acknowledge and express your exercises or relaxation techniques. You cannot go back to being who you
feelings. Grief can be confusing. You can find relaxation tapes at a were. You really don’t ever get “over You may want to talk to others who
Sadness, anger, fear and guilt are library or a book store. it” but you can get “through it”. You are grieving, consider joining a
some of the most common emotions. can learn to live with who you are support group. Most groups are listed
You may feel nothing at all or feel them Take control now. Most bereaved experience a by subject in the phone directory
all at the same time. Do not be afraid It is important at this time to do things change of perspective and discover or through churches, newspapers,
of the intensity of your emotions. that can give you back some sense of that their priorities change. Now is a hospitals, local health and social

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