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somber and funny at the same time? them give you feedback. Become
Writing and delivering a eulogy is familiar with your speech so you can
a therapeutic tool to help deal with recite without making it look you’re
your grief, and being chosen to give reading from a script. The more you
a eulogy is an honor and should be practice the more comfortable you
treated that way. Here are some tips will be. Make them laugh, but be
for writing and delivering an eloquent respectful. A funeral is not a roast,
and memorable eulogy. however there is room for humor
in your eulogy. Fondly remember a
Gather information. Talk with family story about the person that everyone
members, close friends and co- can relate too. Keep it appropriate,
workers to get important information there will be children and the elderly
on the deceased. Some important there that may not share the same
information to include in the eulogy sense of humor. Laughter is truly the
is the person’s family and other close best medicine, and some well-placed
relationships, their education/career, humor will help people cope, and
hobbies or special interests, places will bring back fond memories of the
the person lived or travelled too, and deceased.
any special accomplishments they
had. Don’t be afraid to show emotion.
most part remains can be buried in a sand and are whitish to light grey Organize your thoughts. Jot down Funerals are an extremely emotional
cemetery lot or a cremation garden, in color. The remains of an average your ideas by whatever means are event, nobody expects you not to
interred in a columbarium, kept at sized adult usually weigh between 7 most comfortable and familiar to you. shed a few tears. However, if you feel
home or scattered. and 8 pounds. Create an outline of your speech, that you will be too strongly overcome
and fill in the information that you by your emotions, have a back-up
gathered about the person. plan in place where someone you
How can I be sure I receive the correct Are all the cremated remains
remains? returned? trust can deliver the eulogy for you.
All reputable cremation providers With the exception of minute and Write it down. This is not a toast at a Give them a copy well in advance if
have developed rigorous sets of microscopic particles, which are wedding where you can make off the you feel this could be an issue.
operating policies and procedures in impossible to remove from the cuff remarks, and you should not adlib
order to maximize the level of service cremation chamber and processing a eulogy. Writing it all down allows Have a glass of water as well as
and minimize the potential for human machine, all of the cremated remains you to include and remember every tissues handy.
error. Since it is illegal to perform are given back to the family. detail you wanted in your eulogy.
more than one cremation at a time, When you bring a copy of your eulogy Obituaries and Death
and the vast majority of crematories Do I need an urn? to the podium make sure it is easy to
can only cremate one body at a time, An urn is not required by law. However, read, print it out in a large font, or Notices
it is next to impossible to receive the an urn may be desired if there is to be if hand-written leave a few spaces Occasionally a newspaper will
incorrect remains. a memorial service of if the remains between the lines. Keep in mind your consider the passing of a loved one
are to be interred in a cemetery. If time constraints, it’s best to keep as newsworthy. In this situation, the
How long does the actual cremation an urn is not purchased or provided things on the short side, especially if newspaper will print an obituary at
take? by the family, the cremated remains there are other speakers. no cost to the family, a death notice
It all depends on the weight of the will be returned in a temporary plastic is a means by which the family uses
individual. For an average sized adult, container. Review and Revise. Your first draft will the newspaper to inform relatives
cremation can take two to three hours not be the last. When you think you and friends of the passing. The family
at a normal operating temperature are done, sleep on it and look it over is charged for the death notice, and
of between 1000 and 2000 degrees Eulogies in the morning when it is fresh again, the timing of the print is usually the
Fahrenheit. Giving a meaningful, moving eulogy Practice, Practice, Practice. Read over day before the planned arrangements
can be a nerve-wracking situation for your eulogy several times in order begin. The death notice will contain
even the most accomplished public to become familiar with it. Practice
What do the cremated remains look the name of the deceased, age,
like? speaker, but it need not be. How can in front of a mirror, read it over to where they are from, date of passing,
Cremated remains resemble coarse you summarize somebody’s life in a some friends or family and have relations, arrangements, service date,
few short minutes, while being both
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