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Rabbi Chayim Friedlander 6 רדנלדירפ םייח ברה
A Peaceful Home
Conclusion - Part 3
Part 3.
Doing Chessed with one’s physical actions.
“Our Rabbis have taught (in Gemara Sukkah, 49b) that extending
Chessed to others is greater than giving Tzedakah in three ways:
Tzedakah is done with one’s money, Chessed is done with one’s
physical actions and with one’s money. Tzedakah is given to
the poor, Chessed is done to the poor and to the rich. Tzedakah
is given to the living, Chessed is done to the living and to those
who are no longer living.” Everyone is in need of Chessed and
attention, and a smile. To do these things one does not have to
spend any money; these things are done with one’s physical action.
A person will not find as many opportunities and obligations to
do this mitzvah of Chessed - either with one’s physical actions or
with one’s money - as one can find in the relationship between a
husband and wife. Here one can do Chessed literally with one’s
physical actions. Maran the Gaon Rabbi Yaakov Yisrael Kanievsky
ZT”L expressed this concept in his letter “…One who is sincerely
affectionate and embracing and the like for the sake of Heaven, and
because they are genuinely compassionate - that she should not feel
emotionally hurt or neglected - will not bring on a weakening in
Yirat Shamayim and cause him to fall into the pursuit of his desires,
in fact just the opposite, it brings one to Kedushah, and in so doing
he fulfills the Torah’s proactive mitzvah of “Going in His ways, just
as He is compassionate so too should you be compassionate.” In
doing Chessed with one’s physical efforts a man elevates himself
both physically and spiritually, and merits to attach himself to the
attributes of HaKadosh Baruch Hu. This person’s body and soul
become one bonded entity, and the two of them must now work
together in service to Hashem Yitbarach, as the joining together of
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ךלהא םולש יכ תעדיו סרטנוק
ג רלח - םוּיּ ֶס
.ג קלח
וֹפוּג ְבּ םי ִד ָס ֲח תוּלי ִמ ְגּ
ר ֵתּי םי ֶד ָס ֲח תוּלי ֶמ ְגּ ה ָלּד ְגּ םי ֶר ָב ְדּ ה ֶָלֹ ְֶ ֶבּ ,פ ָנ ָבּ ַר וּנָתּ"
פי ֵבּ ּפוּג ְבּ פי ֵבּ םי ֶד ָס ֲח תוּלי ֶמ ְגּ ,ּנּמ ָמ ְבּ ה ָר ָד ְצ ,ה ָר ָד ְצּ ַה פ ֶמ
פי ֵבּ םיֶיּ ֶנ ֲע ָל פי ֵבּ םי ֶד ָס ֲח תוּלי ֶמ ְגּ ,םיֶיּ ֶנ ֲע ָל ה ָר ָד ְצ .ּנּמ ָמ ְבּ
פי ֵבּ םיֶיּ ַח ַל פי ֵבּ םי ֶד ָס ֲח תוּלי ֶמ ְגּ ,םיֶיּ ַח ַל ה ָר ָד ְצ .םי ֶרי ֶֶ ֲע ַל
- םי ֶד ָס ֲח תוּלי ֶמ ְג ֶל רוּר ָז ד ָח ִא ל ָכּ .]ב"ע ט"מ ה ָכּ ֻס[ "םי ֶת ֵמּ ַל
ה ִז ,תי ֶׁ ְס ַכּ ה ָא ָצּה ְבּ ךְ ִרֹצ פי ֵא ךְ ָכּ ם ֵֶ ְל .ךְוּיּ ֶח ְל ,ב ֵל ת ַמוּשׂ ְת ֶל
םי ֶבּ ַר הֹכּ םי ֶבוּיּ ֶח ְו תּבּ ַר הֹכּ תּיּ ֻר ֶָ ְפ ִא ךָ ְל פי ֵא .ּפוּג ְבּ הֹ ִש ֲע ַנ
י ֶפ ְכּ ,ּנּמ ָמ ְבּ פ ֵה ְו ּפוּג ְבּ פ ֵה ,םי ֶד ָס ֲח תוּלי ֶמ ְגּ ת ַו ְצ ֶמ םוּיּ ֶר ל ִֶ
ּפוּג ְבּ ד ִס ִח לֹמ ְג ֶל ר ֶָ ְפ ִא פא ָכּ .ּתּ ְֶ ֶא ְל ֶי ֶא פי ֵבּ תֶי ַבּ ַבּ ֵֶיּ ִֶ
י ֶמ ..." :ּב ָתּ ְכ ֶמ ְבּ ל" ַצ ַז י ֶר ְס ְבִי ְנ ַר י"ירגה פ ָר ָמ פֶּ ְל ה ִז ְו .ֶ ָמּ ַמ
,תוּנ ָמ ְח ַר ד ַצּ ֶמוּ םֶי ַמ ֶָ ם ֵֶ ְל ה ִז ָבּ א ֵצּיּ ַכ ְו רוּבּ ֶח ְו בוּר ֵר הֹ ִשּע ִֶ
ת ֶַ ָל ְח ַה ְל ל ָל ְכּ וּתּ ַאי ֶב ְמ ה ִז פי ֵא ,ה ָבוּל ֲע ַו ה ָבוּא ְכּ הִי ְה ֶתּ אלֹּ ִֶ
י ֵדי ֶל וּתּ ַאי ֶב ְמ ,א ָבּ ַר ְדּ ַא ,תּו ֲא ַת ְבּ ה ָלי ֶפ ְנ ֶל ְו םֶי ַמ ֶָ ת ַא ְרֶיּ ַה
'וי ָכ ָר ְד ֶבּ ָתּ ְכ ַל ָה ְו' ֶדּ א ָתְי ָרּא ְדּ הֹ ֵש ֲע ה ָו ְצ ֶמ ה ִז ָבּ םֵיּ ַר ְמוּ ,ה ָשּׁ ֻד ְר
ד ִס ִח תוּלי ֶמ ְגּ י ֵדְי ל ַע ."םוּח ַר ה ָתּ ַא ף ַא ,םוּח ַר אוּה ה ָמ -
וי ָתּדּ ֶמ ְבּ ר ֵבּ ַדּ ֶה ְל ה ִכּז ְו ,ּחוּר ְבוּ ּפוּג ְבּ ם ָד ָא ָה ה ִלּ ַע ְת ֶמ ּפוּג ְבּ
ה ָבי ֶט ֲח ַכּ ם ָד ָא ָה ת ִא םי ֶוּ ַה ְמ ַחוּר ְו ףוּגּ .אוּה ךְוּר ָבּ ֶּד ָקּ ַה ל ִֶ
.ךְ ַר ָבּ ְתֶי 'ה ת ַדּב ֲע ַל ֶ ֵמּ ַתּ ְֶ ֶה ְל ךְי ֶר ָצ ד ַחַי ם ִהי ֵנ ְֶ ֶבוּ ,ת ַח ַא
.ּתּ ְֶ ֶא ְל ֶי ֶא פי ֵבּ ֵֶי ד ַחַי ם ִהי ֵנ ְֶ ףוּר ֵצ ְבּ ת ִד ִחֻי ְמ ה ָדּב ֲע
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