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 Rabbi Chayim Friedlander          רדנלדירפ םייח ברה
 A Peaceful Home             ךלהא םולש יכ תעדיו סרטנוק
 Conclusion - Part 1                  ג רלח - םוּיּ ֶס

              ם ֵֶ ְל וּי ְהֶי ךָיֹ ִש ֲע ַמ ל ָכּ" ]ז"י ר ִר ִׁ ףּס פ ָת ָנ 'ר ְדּ תּב ָא[ ל" ַז ַר וֶּ ְר ָדּ

              ר ִֶ ֲא ַכּ ,ךְ ַר ָבּ ְתֶי 'ה ל ִא תוּב ְר ָר ְת ֶה ְל וּאי ֶבָי ךָי ִכ ָר ְדּ ל ָכּ - "םֶי ַמ ֶָ
 Conclusion   ךְי ֶר ָצ ה ִז ל ַע ְו .ךְ ַר ָבּ ְתֶי 'ה ת ַדּב ֲע ַל י ֶע ָצ ְמ ִא ְכּ ם ִה ָבּ ֶ ֵמּ ַתּ ְֶ ֶתּ
                    .וּני ֵכ ָר ְדּ ת ִא  ַחי ֶל ְצַי ךְ ַר ָבּ ְתֶי 'ה ִֶ םי ֶמ ֲח ַר ֶ ֵקּ ַב ְל
 Part 1.

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 The home is a school to learn Chessed.


 The  home  is  the  training  ground  to  learn  the  human  quality  of
 kindness,  based  on  the  rules  of  the  Torah,  with  Tzedakah  and
 Chessed.  “Whoever is a closer relative takes precedence,” as the
 Gemara Babba Metziah states (71a) “The poor of your city and the
 poor of some other city, the poor of your city come first.”  A poor
 man who is related, and one who is not related, the one related takes
 precedence, as it says (Yeshaya 58:7) “Do not hide yourself from
 the needs of your family.”  There is no closer relative to a husband
 than his wife – as his wife is a part of his own body - therefore
 the imperative to do Chessed to her is even more compelling.  On
 occasion we see a strange anomaly.  A man who does much kindness
 at great self-sacrifice extending Chessed to anyone who asks him
 for help, yet his wife is full of complaints against him - Why doesn’t
 she see this “great” giver of kindness doing Chessed with his own
 family?!  This man mistakenly thinks that the mitzvah of Chessed
 is more important when Chessed is done for someone else, and he
 does not understand that the main trait of Chessed must be looking
 first to do Chessed to his wife.


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