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Rabbi Chayim Friedlander
A Peaceful Home
Chapter 1 - Lesson 1
Rabbi Chayim Friedlander
creation must now be created through their own efforts to the point ךלהא םולש יכ תעדיו סרטנוק
where they are once again (Beresheet 2:24) “and they will be as one A Peaceful Home
flesh;” this is what the text says ‘and they will be together,’ as this
is the ultimate goal of their work. English translation entitled
Mazal Elul
One can ask – Why isn’t it good for man to be a single entity
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