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Rabbi Chayim Friedlander רדנלדירפ םייח ברה # 2808
A Peaceful Home ךלהא םולש יכ תעדיו סרטנוק
Chapter 2 - Lesson 5 ג רמאמ - י ֶנ ֵֶ ר ִר ִׁ

be joined literally as one entity. That is what is meant by “In the תא ֵצּמ ּתּ ְֶ ֶא - ּתי ֵבּ פ ֵכ ָא ִֶ ,ּתוּג ֲה ַנ ְת ֶה ל ָכ ְבוּ וי ָנ ָׁ ל ַע אֹר ְר ֶל
beginning,” meaning, in His “mind” the final stage was to create
them as two since that is the goal of Creation, and subsequently in ,פָי ְנ ֶע ה ִזי ֵא ְבּ ר ָה ְר ֻה ְמ ה ָתְי ַבּ ַה א ָבּ ל ַע ַבּ ַה ִֶ ֵֶי .וי ָני ֵע ְבּ פ ֵח
the actual Creation He initially created them as one joined being. ה ָמּ ָל - ת ַע ַגּ ְפ ֶנ ְו ת ִב ִז ְכ ֻא ְמ ה ָשּׁ ֶא ָה .ּתּ ְֶ ֶא ְל ב ֵל םֹ ָש ּני ֵא פ ֵכ ָל ְו
This is the meaning in all places where it is said “In the beginning
He thought.” (The Gra is quoted up until this point). ּלי ֶב ְֶ ֶבּ ךְ ָכּ ל ָכּ ת ַח ַרּט אי ֶה י ֵר ֲה ,ּתי ֵבּ ל ִא אּב ָל ַח ֵמֹ ָש ּני ֵא
.תי ֶֶי ֶא ה ָעי ֶג ְפ ֶכּ תאֹז ה ֶָי ֶגּ ְר ַמ אי ֶה ְו ,תֶי ַבּ ַה ת ִא ּל םי ֶע ְנ ַה ְל
The Gra explains that the initial creation of man and woman as
one being was as a means and preparatory to creating them as אֹצ ְמ ֶל ה ָצּר אי ֶה תֶי ַבּ ַה ךְּת ְבוּ ,ה ָשּׁ ֶא ָה ל ִֶ הּ ָמ ָלּע אוּה תֶי ַבּ ַה
two independent beings, in order to implant within them a sense אי ֶה - ה ָדּב ֲע ָל תֶי ַבּ ַה ֵמ תא ֵצּי ה ָשּׁ ֶא ָה ם ֶא ם ַגּ( ה ָרוּׁ ֶס ת ִא
of one-ness, “in order that they would be bonded in affection and
togetherness literally as one body.” This was said not only in the ּלּ ֻכּ יוּל ָתּ תֶי ַבּ ַבּ הּ ָרוּׁ ֶס .)תֶי ַבּ ַבּ הִי ְהֶי הּ ָרוּׁ ֶס ר ַקּ ֶע ִֶ ה ָצּר
context of Adam and Chava, rather this is the intent in all of the ּבּ ֶל ת ַמוֹּש ְתּ ת ִא הּ ָל ֶי ֶדּ ְר ַמ אוּה ה ָמּ ַכּ ד ַע - תֶי ַבּ ַה ל ַע ַב ְבּ
generations of Creation, as “Forty days before the conception of a
child there is a Heavenly proclamation – The daughter of so-and-so ּדּ ְג ִנ ְכּ ר ִז ֵע ָה אי ֶה פ ֵכ ָא ִֶ ה ִז ָבּ א ֵטּ ַב ְמוּ ,ּת ָבּ ֶח ת ִא הּ ָל ַעי ֶבּ ַמוּ
is destined as the wife of so-and-so,” meaning, that at the beginning .תֶי ַבּ ַה ל ַע ַבּ ל ַע תֶי ַבּ ַה פ ֵח ְו הּ ָנּ ֶח ְו ,ּנּצ ְר ֶכּ
of the creation of man Heaven simultaneously created the soul
of the woman who will be the appropriate wife for him. (This is
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brought down in the name of the holy Zohar, in the sefer Resheet
Chochma, the Gateway to Kedusha, in the 16 perek).
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However, the practical realization of the husband and wife bonding .ג רמאמ
together in this relationship – to actually reach the level of “The
intent of Creation,” that these two people can happily live together ה ָחיֹ ִש יוּבּ ִר י ֵד ְי ל ַע בוּר ֵק
as one - is the job Hashem left to us to accomplish. That is our job
in the first year of marriage which will continue throughout all of
the days of our lives!
ה ָע ְֶ ֶתּ םי ֶֶ ָנּ ַה וּח ְר ָל פ ִה ֵמ ם ָלּע ָל וּד ְרָי ה ָחיֹ ֶש פי ֶבּ ַר הרָָֹשֲע"
ךְי ֵא ?ה ִז ָבּ וּנ ָתּא םי ֶד ְמּ ַל ְמּ ל" ַז ֲח ה ָמ ,]ב"ע ט"מ פי ֶֶוּדּ ֶר[ "פי ֶבּ ַר
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פא ָכּ ֵֶי יא ַדּ ַו ?םי ֶֶ ָנ ֲא ָה ֵמ ר ֵתּי ףֹט ֲח ַל םי ֶֶ ָנּ ַה "וּחי ֶל ְצ ֶה"
Chapter 2 - Lesson 5
.ה ָשּׁ ֶא ָה ל ִֶ הָּי ְפ ָא ת ַאי ֶר ְבּ ל ַע רֹמ ָע דוּמּ ֶל

An atmosphere of goodness and pleasantness. תי ֶֶא ֵר ְבּ[ ה ָבּ ַר ֶ ָר ְד ֶמ ְבּ ה ִז פָי ְנ ֶע ְבּ ר ֵתּי וּנ ָל םי ֶלּ ַג ְמ ל"ַזרַ

- בי ֶת ְכּ פ ִבָיּ ַו :ר ַמ ָא י ֶו ֵל 'ר ם ֵֶ ְבּ פי ֶנ ְכ ֶס ְדּ ַע ֶֻּהְי 'ר' :]'ג ,ח"י
“On occasion a respectful relationship with strict etiquette
demonstrates a lack of bonding.” It is possible that these words ,ֶאֹר ָה פ ֶמ הּ ָתּא א ָר ְב ִא אלֹ ,ר ַמ ָא .הּ ָתאֹר ְב ֶל פֶי ַא ֵמ פ ֵנּבּ ְת ֶה

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