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Rabbi Chayim Friedlander
A Peaceful Home
Chapter 2 - Lesson 4
that in the first year they build and strengthen the foundation of
their relationship which will continue to be built on this foundation
throughout all of the years of their lives.
“This is the intent of Creation – that they will be one being.” The
ability to bring into reality the intent of Creation was left to us by the
Creator. (Gemara Ketubot 8a) “Rav Yehudah noted a contradiction
- It is written in one place “Elokim created man (singular) in His
image,” and it is written in another place “He created them (plural)
male and female.” How was that done? In the beginning He thought
to create them as two, and in the end He created them as one.”
(Please study carefully the Rashi in his commentary on the Gemara
“In the end He created one being with two façades, male in the front
and female in the back.” See also the Tosafot there who explained it
differently). “How is it possible to even think that “In the beginning
He thought…and in the end He created them as one?” One also
must understand that ultimately in the end He divided the one being
into two individuals, male and female, and that being so, in the end
He did create them as two.” The Gra ZT”L opens our eyes on this
topic in his commentary on Mishle (9:10) quoted as follows: “That
which was said – In the beginning He thought to create them as two
yet in the end He created only one – Is there, G-d forbid, change in
His “mind”?! Rather, HaKadosh Bruch Hu created the woman in
order for her to be a helpmate to the man, and what use is there for
her when they are one body, the main goal of Creation was for them
to be two independent beings. And so the reason HaKadosh Bruch
Hu first created them as one was in order that they would bond
together with love and a sense of one-ness more than their feeling of
closeness to their brothers or other relatives, that this couple would
In this regard we find (in Gemara Niddah 31b) “Why does the Torah
impose a seven-day waiting period on a Niddah after she stops seeing
a discharge? Because he is familiar with her and may have tired of
her, and so the Torah says – Let her be Tameh for seven days in order
that she will be beloved to her husband just as she was at the time of
their wedding when he took her under his Chupah.”
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# רדנלדירפ םייח ברה 3
ךלהא םולש יכ תעדיו סרטנוק
ג רמאמ - י ֶנ ֵֶ ר ִר ִׁ
פ ֶמ אלֹ .)הּ ָת ָו ֲא ַג ְבּ ת ִט ִלּ ַבּ ְת ֶמ( הּ ֶָאֹר ת ִר ִקַּי ְמ א ֵה ְתּ אלֹּ ִֶ
תי ֶנ ָתְיּ ַצ א ֵה ְתּ אלֹּ ִֶ פ ִזֹא ָה פ ֶמ אלֹ ְו .תי ֶנ ָר ְר ַס א ֵה ְתּ אלֹּ ִֶ ,פֶי ַע ָה
א ֵה ְתּ אלֹּ ִֶ ,ה ִׁ ַה פ ֶמ אלֹ ְו .)ר ָב ָדּ ל ָכּ ַעֹמ ְֶ ֶל ת ִֶ ִקּ ַב ְמ :כ"תמ(
פֶּ ְל :כ"תמ( תי ֶנ ָתּ ְנ ַר א ֵה ְתּ אלֹּ ִֶ ,ב ֵלּ ַה פ ֶמ אלֹ ְו .תי ֶנ ָר ְבּ ַד
,ל ִג ִר ָה פ ֶמ אלֹ ְו .תי ֶנ ֶָ ְמ ְֶ ַמ א ֵה ְתּ אלֹּ ִֶ ,דָיּ ַה פ ֶמ אלֹ ְו .)ה ָא ְנ ֶר
אוּה ִֶ םּר ָמּ ֶמ א ָלּ ִא .)תי ֶנ ָא ְצַי :כ"תמ( תי ֶנ ָס ְר ַׁ א ֵה ְתּ אלֹּ ִֶ
הָי ָה הּ ָבּ א ֵרּבּ הָי ָה ִֶ ר ָבי ֵא ְו ר ָבי ֵא ל ָכּ ל ַע ְו ...ם ָד ָא ָבּ ַעוּנ ָצ
ל ַע ף ַא .ה ָעוּנ ְצ ה ָשּׁ ֶא א ֵה ְתּ ,ה ָעוּנ ְצ ה ָשּׁ ֶא א ֵה ְתּ :הּ ָל ר ֵמּא
הּ ָתּא י ֶתא ָר ָבּ אלֹ ."י ֶת ָצ ֲע ל ָכּ וּע ְר ְפ ֶתּ ַו" :]ה"כ ,'א י ֵל ְֶ ֶמ[ פ ֵכ י ֶׁ
:]ז"ט ,'ג וּהָי ְע ְֶַי[ ר ַמ ֱא ִנּ ִֶ ,הּ ֶָאֹר ת ִר ִקַּי ְמ אי ֶה י ֵר ֲה ַו ,ֶאֹר ָה פ ֶמ
תי ֶנ ָר ְר ַס אי ֶה י ֵר ֲה ַו ,פֶי ַע ָה פ ֶמ אלֹ ְו ."פּר ָגּ תּיוּט ְנ ה ָנ ְכ ַל ֵתּ ַו"
,תי ֶנ ָתְי ַצ אי ֶה י ֵר ֲה ַו ,פ ִזֹא ָה פ ֶמ אלֹ ְו ."םֶי ַני ֵע תּר ְקּ ַס ְמוּ" ]ם ֶָ[
אלֹ ְו . 8 6"ל ִהֹא ָה ח ַת ִׁ ת ַע ַמֶֹ ה ָרֹ ָש ְו" ]'י , ח"י תי ֶֶא ֵר ְבּ[ ר ַמ ֱא ִנּ ִֶ
ל ֵח ָר א ֵנּ ַר ְתּ ַו" ]'א ,'ל ם ֶָ[ ר ַמ ֱא ִנּ ִֶ ,תי ֶנ ָתּ ְנ ַר אי ֶה י ֵר ֲה ַו ,ב ֵלּ ַה פ ֶמ
ם ֶָ[ ר ַמ ֱא ִנּ ִֶ ,תי ֶנ ֶָ ְמ ְֶ ַמ ְמ אי ֶה י ֵר ֲה ַו ,דָיּ ַה פ ֶמ אלֹ ְו ."הּ ָתּח ֲא ַבּ
אי ֶה י ֵר ֲה ַו ,ל ִג ִר ָה פ ֶמ אלֹ ְו ."םי ֶפ ָר ְתּ ַה ת ִא ל ֵח ָר בֹנ ְג ֶתּ ַו" ]ט"י ,א"ל
.'"ה ָני ֶדּ א ֵצ ֵתּ ַו" ]'א ,ד"ל ם ֶָ[ ר ַמ ֱא ִנּ ִֶ ,תי ֶנ ָס ְר ַׁ
י ֵד ְכּ ה ָתְי ָה ה ָעוּנ ְצּ ִֶ ַעי ֶדּה ְל" ... - "ךָ ְתּ ְֶ ֶא ה ָרֹ ָש הֵיּ ַא" :וּל ֲא ֶָ םי ֶכ ָא ְל ַמּ ַה .8
]ב"ע ז"פ א ָעי ֶצ ְמ א ָב ָבּ ם ֵֶ ְבּ 'ט ח"י תי ֶֶא ֵר ְבּ י" ֶֶ ַר[ "הּ ָל ְע ַבּ ל ַע הּ ָב ְבּ ַח ְל
ה ָדּ ֶמ פא ָכּ םי ֶלּ ַג ְמ ל" ַז ַר י ֶנ ֵֶ ד ַצּ ֶמ ,הּ ָתוּעי ֶנ ְצ ל ַע םי ֶד ְמּל וּנ ָא ד ָח ִא ד ַצּ ֶמ
.פ ָמּ ַר ְל ר ַאֹבי ֶו ,תוּנ ָתְיּ ַצ ל ִֶ
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