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RokZRooM Special ! You Can Win by Shiv Khera

12. Inability to Recognize Opportunity

Opportunities come disguised as obstacles. That is why most people don't recognize
them. Remember that the bigger the obstacle, the bigger is the opportunity.

13. Fear

Fear can be real or imaginary. It makes people do strange things and primarily comes
because of a lack of understanding. To live in fear is like being in an emotional prison.
Fear results in insecurity, lack of confidence, procrastination. Fear destroys our potential
and ability. We cannot think straight. It ruins relationships and health.
Some of the common fears are:

♦ fear of failing
♦ fear of the unknown
♦ fear of being unprepared
♦ fear of making the wrong decision
♦ fear of rejection

Some fears can be described, others felt. Fear leads to anxiety, which in turn leads to
irrational thinking, which actually sabotages our solution to the problem. The normal
response to fear is escape. Escape puts us in our comfort zone and reduces the impact
temporarily, while keeping the cause. Imaginary fear magnifies the problem. Fear can get
out of hand and destroy happiness and relationships.
Fear of failure often can be worse than failure itself. Failure is not the worst thing that
could happen to someone. People who don't try have failed before attempting. When
infants learn to walk, they keep falling; but to them it is not failing so they get up. If they
got disheartened, they would never walk. It is better to die on one's feet than to live with
fear on one's knees.

14. Inability to Use Talent

Albert Einstein said, "I think I used about 25% of my intellectual capacity during my life."
According to William James, human beings use only 10-12% of their potential.
The saddest part of most people's lives is that they die with the music still in them. They
haven't lived while alive. They rust out rather than wear out. I would rather wear out than
rust out. The saddest words in life are "I should have".
Rusting out is not to be confused with patience. Rusting out is idleness and passivity.
Patience is a conscious decision, it is active and involves perseverance and persistence.
Someone asked an elderly person, "What is life's heaviest burden?" The elderly person
replied sadly, "To have nothing to carry."

15. Lack of Discipline
Have you ever wondered why some people never reach their goals? Why they are
always frustrated with reversals and crises? Why is it some people have continued
success, while others have endless failures? Anyone who has accomplished anything
worthwhile has never done so without discipline, whether in sports, athletics, academia or
business.

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