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RokZRooM Special ! You Can Win by Shiv Khera

We cannot live as if we have another earth we can move to. On a daily basis, we need to
do something that makes this world a better place to live. We are custodians for the
future generations. If we do not behave responsibly, how can future generations forgive
us?
If the average life expectancy of a person is 75 years and if you are 40 years old, you
have 365 days x 35 years, to live. Ask yourself this question: What are you going to do
with this time? When we accept or add responsibility, we make ourselves more valuable.
Don't we?

Self-discipline does not kill joy but builds it. You see people with talent and ability, and yet
they are unsuccessful. They are frustrated and the same behavior pattern affects their
business, their health, and their relationships with others. They are dissatisfied and
blame it on luck without realizing that many problems are caused by lack of discipline.

Set Goals

Well-defined goals give a person a sense of direction, a feeling of accomplishment when
he reaches his goals. More important than goals is a sense of purpose and vision. It
gives meaning and fulfillment to life.
What we get upon achieving our goals is a lot less important than what we become. It is
the becoming which gives us a good feeling. That is what self-esteem is all about.
In goal-setting, we need to be realistic. Unrealistic goals remain unaccomplished, leading
to poor self-esteem, whereas realistic goals are encouraging and build high self-esteem.

Associate with People of High Moral Character

Associate yourself with people of good quality if you esteem your reputation for it is better
to be alone than to be in bad company.

George Washington

Test of Friendship

Negative influences come in the form of peer pressure. People say, "Aren't you my
friend?" Remember, true friends never want to see their friends hurt.
If I ever saw that a friend had had one drink too many, I would put my foot down and not
let him drive. I would rather lose the friendship than lose a friend.
It is common to see people doing wrong things to get accepted, saying, "it is cool," not
realizing they will be left cold.
What starts as peer pressure may be in reality a test of friendship. Where will they be
when you are in trouble? How far will they go to help you? And the biggest question is: If
they don't have the character today, how will they have the character tomorrow to help
you? Associating with people of high moral character helps build self esteem.

Peer Pressure

When the desire to belong to the herd becomes stronger than the desire to stand up for
what is right, it is evident that what is lacking is courage and character. It is less
controversial. Going along to get along is a safer way, keeps one's peers happy and one

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