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How To Survive Baby Loss

Nine Months Post Loss

During this time, it may occur to you that it’s been nine months,
the time it usually takes to grow a child, and yet you are strug-
gling to find your way to grow stronger with the loss of your
child. You wish you could change the outcome, but the storm
continues. Grief is far from over, it just changes form. You may
worry about approaching the first year of post pregnancy loss.
How will you cope with it, and how will you manage the trig-
gers? As always, just please remember that the feelings and
questions are normal.

This could be the time that a couple is ready to discuss or try
for another child. There is no right or wrong time if the doctor
or midwife or OBGYN provider has given approval for trying.
The key is to be emotionally and physically ready.

One Year Anniversary Post Loss

It may feel like your tragedy was only yesterday as you ap-
proach your anniversary. I remember being at work on the one
year anniversary of the day our son was full term and we found
that he had no heartbeat. That was a hard day at work. I strug-
gled with focus, felt distracted, emotional, and honestly wished
I had taken the day off. If I were to do it over I would’ve taken
a few days off, so that I could honor my grief, and cry as I need-
ed. I spent the day wanting to be home to process my thoughts
and feelings. Here’s my social media entry on our first year post
loss:
“I feel overwhelmed with emotions. I almost can’t
concentrate. Trying to hang onto everything. Trying to
put into words how I feel. I can’t. My phone is explod-
ing with everything I’m trying to hang onto, videos,
pictures, and memories. Somehow feeling I’ll get closer
to him by hanging on to what I have. Those of you that
grieve know exactly what I’m talking about. The belly
video the Thursday before that weekend. The “last”
family playdate when he was okay. The memories of
him moving on Sunday still waiting for his grand en-
trance. Working on the computer to finish before “ma-

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