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What to Expect Within the Unexpected

making these big decisions. Give yourselves time to make the
best choice for the future of your family.

Three Months Post Loss

The true reality of grief can start to set in during this time. It
might start to feel like it’s getting worse. You may have fewer
tears, or more. You may have more sadness or more anger, as
you are less likely to be in a state of shock. You may look the
same on the outside, but you still feel different on the inside. It
is common to feel abandoned during this stage. Others may see
it as the time when you should start feeling better and returning
to normal. Just the opposite is true. You are not alone if you start
to feel like friends and family are not there for you in the same
way they were in the beginning of the loss.

Six Months Post Loss

You blink and it has been a long, long six months. You miss your
child more than ever. The triggers may decrease in frequency,
but feel harder to handle when they do come with greater inten-
sity. You may struggle with your relationships if people are not
talking about your loss now, and you begin feeling as though
you cannot relate to others. Where did your friends go? Now
that you are the one in four who experiences pregnancy loss,
where are the other three?

On the other hand, you may be processing in a better place. If
you feel like getting out, being with friends or resuming normal
activities like gym workouts or things you used to enjoy, this is
the time to go for it.

Still there is a hole in your heart and a lump in your throat.
You miss him or her so much. Consider joining a support group.
If you need one, I would invite you to our private faith based
support group: Baby Loss Connection, a place perfect for those
in the pregnancy and infant loss community. Here you will ex-
perience community with other parents of loss, with support
and ideas on your journey to healing.

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