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Moving Forward

love this life well regardless of the final outcome. Regardless of what
happens, God is with you.

Perhaps you had to have a hysterectomy? Age, infertility, and
repeated losses are factors that require some men and women
stop trying or have no more chances for kids. This letting go
process is so much more painful. Now you are dealing with
closing this chapter. How do you cope with the grief of your
child and the grief of the future?

Even for those who have not experienced baby loss, it can be
a difficult time when the end of the child producing years final-
ly comes. Consider that motherhood is one of the most precious
gifts that God has given to women. Eve was like Adam in many
ways, but there was a crucial distinction that is completely un-
dervalued in our day. Only women can be mothers.

Paul said the mysterious and enigmatic statement in 1 Timo-
thy 2:15 that, “...women will be saved through childbearing—if
they continue in faith, love and holiness with propriety.” This
is such a special part of being a female that it can be a really
emotional time to move on from that long stage of childbearing,
often ten or more years of carrying, nurturing, feeding, nursing,
and loving little miracles into existence, and then on to adult-
hood.

Some would accuse you of getting too much identity from
motherhood, but it’s hard to make a case that we aren’t sup-
posed to get some identity from one of the main gifts God has
given us as a purpose. Your identity in Christ is paramount, but
within that identity are the things God has made you and called
you to do.
The world does not understand this right now. The encour-
agement from those who would “celebrate women” is for us to
look for ourselves in roles where we can compete with men, as
though that is what would make us matter. This is nonsense.
Certainly, women are capable of filling all sorts of important
roles in the world. Women are great leaders, competent scien-
tists, business people, and anything else we put our minds to.
But the point is that there is something only we can do, and that

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