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advice that is for the courts don't function in isolation and the clever idiots soon

have a reputation for doing that and it may just be you who suffers because of
it.

How are you paid is a better question for it is always possible for the payer to
deposit it into a magistrates office and you then have to stand in a queue for

hours to receive a cash pay-out which is dangerous and designed to cause
anger. Hence make sure that your settlement states electronic transfer to

whatever account you choose. Most forget this for they only look at figures.

As a general rule maintenance can be reduced or increased by the court or
between the parties. Always try to sort it out amicably before you run to the

courts for assistance. It happens that your ex lost his job and is unemployed.
Running to the court then will only reduce the amount to next to nothing. The

law is neutral and cannot force money out of someone who genuinely doesn't
have it. It is a different story when he has money but will not comply with the

settlement and then you may use the full power of the law with attachment of
goods and salary and income to force him to pay.

He may even be arrested for contempt of court in certain circumstances but
remember so can you. I cannot tell you how many moms spend a weekend in

jail (until we can bail them out) because they refused access to the child without
any other reason than revenge or being obnoxious. They see the new girlfriend

in the car and decide well, you will not expose my kids to her. I say again to you

grow up. This is the road to unnecessary trouble and a fight you will never win.
Even if she did break up your marriage (debatable because why did your
husband fall for her in the first place) and she is a woman of ill repute it does

not make her per se someone unworthy to be close to your child. Obviously if

she is a convicted child molester etc you may treat her like one but in all
honesty, most are not.

May a parent take the child overseas?

We had in South Africa mass emigration during the last 20 years for reasons
which has nothing to do with racism as the long haired liberals think. When by
law a man is prohibited to obtain a job and his business cannot obtain contracts

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