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Effects of divorce?

Freedom! You may now marry who you please again but this really (I hope)
should not be the reason for divorce. Legally you may also revert to your maiden

name but usually you keep the title Mrs even if I suspect that may be politically
incorrect. Each to his own! It is your choice and some are angry enough to do

so.

You also lose all your marital rights towards each other which we discussed. It is

important to carry on with your life and do the best you can. Where children are

involved you never really lose contact with your ex and many told me through
the years they became good friends. They just don't ever want to be married

again.

The divorce process

As always you start with a combined summons in the High Court. Whoever asks

for the divorce will be the one testifying in even uncontested divorces. The
plaintiff will have to answer a few questions which are really no big deal. Be

prepared to wait for many hours as the courts are busy and you will soon note
that everyone says the same thing. It is a proven formula.

Talk clearly and address the court as "My Lord" even if it is a female Judge
(don't ask why for I don't know). Very importantly be neatly dressed meaning a

jacket and tie for men and take your identity book and original marriage

certificate with as you will be asked for it.

Before your big day in court you would (unless silly) sign the fair settlement

agreement (unhappily) and the advocates of the Family Office will scrutinize
your settlement with the children. It is very possible that a social worker may

visit you also on their instruction. They and the social worker are paid by the
State but if you wish you may get a private social worker for which you pay

which is only fair. Typically there are no problems with this aspect and they
agree to what is normal. It is only where you want something outlandish where

it becomes an issue.

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