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There are some feelings we have when infatuated that we don’t have when we’re feeling love.

Some of the symptoms of infatuation are; feelings of panic, uncertainty, overpowering lust,
feverish excitement, impatience, and/or jealously. When infatuated, we are thrilled, but not
happy, wanting to trust, yet suspicious. There are lingering, nagging doubts about our partner
and their love for us. We’re miserable when they’re away, almost like we’re not complete unless
we’re with them. It’s a rush and it’s intense. It’s difficult to concentrate.

Infatuation, is an obsessive compulsion to receive emotional support from another person.

Falling in love in this manner involves the irrational expectation that the same emotion will
magically appear in the other person. If this fails to occur, the infatuated person feels hurt.
Infatuation is common, especially among singles, and especially the inexperienced.

When you are infatuated, unless you are experienced and or endowed with the skills of wisdom
and insight, with the ability to detach, it is rarely clear what actions are proper and what
actions are improper. Situations vary, and general advice cannot be given on what to do. If
you do nothing else with your life, at the very least, try to be a happy person and avoid making
problems for other people.

· Don't allow yourself to believe for even one moment that the OTHER person is also in love in
the same way. If you can at least avoid deceiving yourself then the pain will be much
less. Do NOT blame the person you love for not being honest about what you think is their
deep passion for you. Do NOT blame the person you love for stringing you along. You
string yourself along! The only person that makes you love someone is you! The safest thing
to cultivate is a sense of self-control.
· LISTEN to what the other person says. Don't double-guess another person. Don't arrogantly
think you know better than he/she does about their own mind. These errors will come back
to haunt you. If you fail to listen, you will miss many clues that could spare you from
humiliation and rejection. Listening requires LOOKING at the other person, IN THE EYES, and
watching their face and hands. Listening requires NOT DAYDREAMING, but taking in each
word that is said, and the way in which it is said. If you are not in the habit of listening
CAREFULLY, now is a good time to start practicing!
· Do NOT brood over the other person. If you find yourself thinking about him or her all the
time, and the other person does not return the compliment, that is unhealthy. Exercise,
socialise with other friends, join a club, get involved in other activities. Love yourself and do
good things for yourself.
· NEVER commit any hostile act against the person you love or once loved. Be adult and
wise enough to walk away from a situation where you are unwanted. Having failed in
love, there is no good to come from receiving hatred in its place. Display grace, dignity,
and honour, and others will respect you for it however grudgingly.
· Don't take yourself or your love too seriously. Do NOT allow yourself to get depressed over
love. Love yourself.

What Makes us Fall in Love?
We all have a model for the ideal partner buried somewhere in our subconscious. It is this model
that decides which person in that crowded room catches our eye. But how is this model
formed?

Appearance Many researchers have speculated that we tend to go for members of the
opposite sex who remind us of our parents. Some have even found that we tend to be
attracted to those who remind us of ourselves.