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· You're able to work through your problems. It's natural to have some bumps in the
relationship road to true bliss. People in healthy relationships see disagreements as a
chance to learn more about their partner. However, if you're creating problems, or if you
think every fight is the "big one" leading to a break up, you should probably rethink your
relationship.

· You feel safe. You're not afraid of losing your partner.

· You can't explain why you're together. Many people coordinate their lives so that they
have to be together. Ask yourself if you're truly together because you want to be, and not
simply because of circumstances or to keep the image of the happy family unit upheld. If
the answer is "yes," then you'll probably stay together. If it's "no," you're bound to have
problems — if you haven't already.

· You don't compare your partner to others. There will always be someone more beautiful,
smarter or more athletic than your partner, but you don't care because you only want to
be with him or her.

If you still don't know whether your love will last, try this last piece of advice Make a list of what
you require from someone to be happy. If the list contains changes that are conditional to your
happiness, you will be truly happy only when you see those changes appear indefinitely. If you
are genuinely happy in your heart with who your partner is without the uncertainty of change,
you may have found a relationship that will last. Remember though, they must sincerely want
and be capable of making those changes, you can only really change you. Ask yourself “If the
changes I want never appear, could I happily accept that?” Again, only you know the answer.

How to mend a broken heart

Throughout your life, there will be times when your heart is broken. Perhaps a relationship ends,
and you feel sad and depressed, or your teenage protégé just told you how much they hate
you. No matter how your heart is broken, if you are not careful, it can lead to high blood
pressure, stroke, heart disease and a number of other ailments.

There are some things you can do to help mend a broken heart. Here are some steps to help
you cope and begin a new outlook on your life:

Practise Forgiveness This is not always easy, because human nature will want you to stay mad at
someone, and to focus on the negative issues at hand. But medical research has proven that
once you learn to forgive someone, not only is the other person "OK" in your eyes, but a burden
will be lifted from your head... and your heart.

Reach out and help someone else When your heart is broken, and you are feeling sad, the last
thing in the world you want to think about is anyone else but yourself. Take a deep breath, and
reach out and help someone else who is in need. By focusing on someone else's needs instead
of your own, your heart will be stronger.

Laughter It really is the best medicine. When your heart is aching, find ways to really laugh. Rent
that new comedy DVD or find a few joke books. Start laughing, and you will be putting a smile
on your face, and in your heart.

Alter your routine Just for a day or two, mix things up. Stop doing the same old things every day
and try something new. Have you been putting off doing something? Do it now. Spend an entire
day doing things that make you happy.