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Openness means being willing to communicate your deepest feelings. There can be no
intimacy without conversation. The only way you can both truly communicate is to tell the truth.
Truthful communication moves love partners and creates a condition of unity, love and
satisfaction.

For intimacy to grow in a healthy love relationship there can be no withholding; feelings - both
positive and negative - must be shared equally between love partners. The act of withholding
the truth is always potentially a lie.

The energy required for the self-discipline of honesty is far less than the energy required for
withholding. Your love partner and you are dedicated to the truth and live in the open, and
through the exercise of your courage to live in the open, we become free from fear. Fear
cannot exist whenever insight is valued above feeling frightened.

Listen when she shares without making judgment. Your heart should always be open to hear
what your love partner has to say.

Someone said that it is possible to be together so much that we suffocate each other. Do not
allow this to happen in your love relationship. Understand that love includes letting go when she
needs freedom; holding her close when she needs care. Commit to creating space in your
relationship when needed.

Learn to cherish both intimacy and solitude. Never feel tied to each other.

“Don't smother each other. No one can grow in the shade”. ~ Leo Buscaglia

At the heart of love, there is a simple secret: the lover lets the beloved be free. You and your
love partner require different mixes of independence and mutuality, and the mix is freely
discussed and renegotiated from time to time when necessary.

When two people in a love relationship are complete within themselves they do not experience
the love they have for others as diminishing, detracting, or threatening to the love they share.
They are secure within the relationship.

Insecurities bring forth jealousy, which, in effect, is a cry for more love. It is within your rights to ask
for more affection when self-doubts surface, however, the indirect way that jealousy asks for it is
counterproductive. Excessive possessiveness and needy behaviour is inappropriate. Jealousy is
the surest way to drive away the very person you may fear losing.

It is an irony that the more possessive you are, the more love you will demand, the less you will
receive; while the more freedom you give, the less you demand, the more love you will receive.
Take great pleasure in watching your love partner be fully free and fully alive!

Encourage each other to widen your circle of friends. Each seek to ever expand your horizons.
Enjoy celebrating life together and with friends!

Know that if you expect to be the only person who matters to you love partner you are setting
yourself up for disappointment. As wonderful as true love can be, no one person can meet all
your needs. Your love partner is, and should always be your very best friend, and she is not your
only friend.