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Well, that’s impossible. Since none of
us is perfect, everyone makes mistakes.
We all do stuff that we regret, and our
ego is not diminished by admitting
error. It strengthens when we become
accountable for our words and actions.
Jung advocated developing a strong
ego as the essential first stage of any
kind of self-exploration or therapy.
Not a big ego. A strong ego. There is
a big difference between the two. A
big ego cannot ever say they are sorry
or wrong. Everything that happens to
them is everyone else’s fault. We all
do this sometimes as no one enjoys
being wrong. A good way to check
your ego is the charge you are getting
from an experience. If you are charged,
(which includes going on and on to
others about the issue ad nauseum)
then there is something you need to
see about yourself. This is not easy, but
it is so worth it if self-knowledge and
individuating is your goal.
Polarizations in our relationships is how
we learn more about ourselves. One
person will exhibit one extreme in their
character and the other will be doing
the opposite extreme. For a polarization
to have occurred, both people had to
get out of balance. Therefore, both are
responsible for bringing things back to a
state of harmony.
If we are the more silent, introverted
type and find it difficult to talk about
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our feelings, then it’s important for us to
write things down to get clear with the
other person. This is not an easy task,
as it takes work, cooperation, and self-
honesty. What you will have at the end of
the day if you are willing to do “Shadow
work” (recognize opposites) with your
partner or friend and communicate
authentically is trust.
Authenticity has an intention.
The intention is I intend to be closer to
you. I want to know you and what you
feel, and I am open to you knowing me. I
can be trusted to keep my word. I can ask
for your help if I need it without fear that
I am putting you out to do so. I also want
you to ask me for what you want. Even if
we are disagreeing at times, when you are
listening or communicating, they know
you care. In a lot of ways, we are going
to stretch and be more selfless at times
and at times we are going to be selfish.
We need both for balance. The goal is
reciprocity and balance.
Looking at your Astrological data
together with your partner will give you
a tool to work with. When each person
can learn about their partners’ astrology,
get a synastry interpretation of the two
of them together, the insights revealed
are very healing. We can understand
so much more about who the person
we are in relationship with is; what’s
important to them and even why it’s