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This emotional compulsion and fascination

are initially an unconscious psychological

projection of ourselves and is largely

comprised of our shadow or Anima/Animus,

our soul, contra-sexual images.

live it out for us so our shadow can also be will to power is paramount, love is lacking.

desirable, undeveloped potential. The one is but the shadow of the other.”
— Carl Jung, Two Essays on Analytical
When they are negative traits, they usually Psychology, paragraph 78

go against our ideals of what we consider
to be civilized or moral behavior, and we There is a transpersonal purpose in letting

will find these intolerable and repulsive. go of the idealistic Piscean notion of
These don’t show up until we are deep romantic love. As an evolving collective,
into a contractual marriage or committed we need to understand that eventually this

in an intimate partnership. Because dissolution, separation and sometimes
projective identification is unconscious, acute animosity has to happen so that we

we have no idea we are projecting - it is a can differentiate from each other. When we
very common ego defense mechanism. see each other’s humanity, our imperfect
We will not allow this realization to come selves, we can now see and accept each

into our minds because it is too painful for other’s differences, faults, flaws as well
our fragile and defended ego to recognize as virtues. This is actually the beginning

that we are not who we think we are. We of an opportunity for a mature, real and
shove these parts of us even further into conscious relationship which initially can
the unconscious and allow them to carry be very painful and disappointing.

our shadow for us. As if scripted, a power
struggle begins when we try to change in “Seldom or never does a marriage develop

them what we actually need to become into an individual relationship smoothly
conscious of and embrace in ourselves. and without crisis. There is no birth of
consciousness without pain.”

Jung says, — Carl Jung, The Development of the
“Logically the opposite of love is hate, and Personality, paragraph 331

of Eros, Phobos, (fear); but psychologically
it is the will to power. Where love reigns, I want to share an excerpt from my
there is no will to power; and where the Shadow Dance Workbook in Examples at

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