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If you are someone who feels anger quickly and can lash out
at others regretting it later, then a useful phrase might be:

“I’m finding myself feeling really wound up so I’m going to take
some time out… I’ll come back to you when I’ve thought this
through.”

If you are someone who struggles to be in touch with your
anger or you automatically concede in a discussion, then a
useful phrase might be:

“I can’t give you an immediate answer, but I’ll come back to you
when I’ve thought this through.”

This is a valuable exercise and works regardless of which end
of the spectrum you may tend to fall into.

Buying time removes you from the pressure of the moment
and creates opportunity for reflection and thought. If you are
faced with someone who doesn’t listen, repeating your phrase
will eventually work. It creates a boundary and reinforces
your right to leave the situation and take some time to
consider your position.

• Reflect. Now is the time to listen to yourself and
consider what you think and how you feel, as well as
considering the perspective of any other parties
concerned.

There is real value at this stage to notice any other underlying
emotions that may be influencing your perspective.

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