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         Similarly, if a person sees his friend drowning in the sea or being
         attacked by robbers or by a wild animal and is either able to save
         him himself or hire others to do so and does not do so, or if he hears
         gentiles or informers plotting evil against him or setting a trap for
         him and he doesn’t tell his friend, or if he knows of a gentile or of a
         marauder who has some complaint against his friend and he can to
         placate them on his friend’s behalf and do away with their grudge but
         he does not do so and any similar example, he violates ‘Do not stand
         idly by the [spilled] blood of your colleague.’

            The Chafetz Chaim (Rechilus 9, Be’er Mayim Chaim, 1) adds that
         the Torah’s intent with this prohibition is that a person should save
         his colleague from any kind of pain or distress, not only from death.

            In light of this, anyone who can restore harmony between man and
         wife is obligated to do so. This was the habit of Aharon Hakohen,
         as Chazal teach us. The Me’am Lo’ez writes about Aharon Hakohen
         (Bamidbar, p. 244),“If he saw a couple fighting one another he would
         not leave them before he had restored peace between them.”

            The question arises only if the couple is not interested in having
         strangers deal their problem because of their embarrassment – should
         outsiders become involved against their wishes or is this perhaps for-
         bidden?

            Two situations need to be considered:
            1. A case where the couple doesn’t have children who are being ad-
         versely affected by the situation between them and the matter solely
         concerns the couple’s benefit.
            2. If they have children who are being harmed by their quarreling,
         as in the question posed at the beginning of our discussion.
            We shall first consider the halachah when the couple has children
         who are being harmed by their arguments. It seems obligatory to
         intervene between the parents in order to save the children since the
         parents do not own their children and they are not entitled to harm
         them, either physically or emotionally. Consider the following: if
         the parents were hurling objects at each other and the children were
         being hit, it’s obviously mandatory to intervene in their affairs even
         against their wishes in order to save the children from harm. Emo-

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