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What? Didn’t you just point out that anger
can hurt me and my family?
Yes, but I’m not saying, “don’t do anything
about your anger.” I’m saying “managing your
anger” is not the way to go.
What you really want is to be free of your
anger issues. You want to stop getting
angry, so your spouse and kids are less
frightened and feel safer and more loving
around you.
It’s not easy being a good husband and a good You can do this, but it takes going after the
By Dr. Mort Orman, M.D.
dad these days. So it’s no wonder husbands and causes of your anger, not just the symptoms.
dads get angry from time to time.
And by causes, I don’t mean the behaviors of
others. I mean the causes within you that are
Most of us don’t want to be angry, however.
Especially not on a regular basis. generating your angry feelings.
These are specific thoughts and behaviors
First, being angry doesn’t make us feel good
about ourselves. that automatically get triggered within you.
In my 20’s and 30’s I was a very angry guy.
Second, we don’t like losing our cool and not
being in control of our emotions. Think John McEnroe. I would routinely get
angry at my patients, parents, sister, and
girlfriends. I tried all of the anger
Third, we know anger outbursts don’t make our
wives or kids feel happy or secure. management strategies, but none of them
helped. I even went into therapy for several
years. But when I stopped, I was still an
And lastly, we know anger can be harmful—to our
health, our marriage, and our children. angry guy.
Then, I finally figured out how to identify and
So what is a modern-day husband and father to
do? deal with the internal causes of my anger.
And for the past 40 years, I’ve had very little
anger in my life. I’ve also helped many others
Just ignore his angry feelings or put up with to have similar personal anger
them hoping for the best? Confide in friends or
join a support group? Read some anger breakthroughs.
management books? Enroll in an anger
management program? It’s not hard to do. I’ve got a short-term
anger elimination program called “Not Angry
Anymore” that you can join. Go to
Most of these strategies don’t produce lasting http://TheAngerSolution.org to find out
change which is why I suggest “not managing
your anger.” more.
Getting at the root causes of your anger is
far superior to managing it.
Guys like to be winners. So if you want to
finally win against anger, this is the very best
way to go.
Dr. Mort Orman, MD, Free Yourself From Anger And Stress
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