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rope with just a casual tug, it makes
no such effort. This limiting belief
gets etched in the unconscious mind
of the elephant.
Our stories are no different from
the elephant story. Our limiting
beliefs are formed usually in our
childhood through various sources
such as our environment or certain
events. Unfortunately, we don’t
realize that we cascade the limiting
beliefs to our child/children-until their
child becomes an adult and we observe signs of self-doubt, fear and hesitation.
For example, one of the mid-level managers I worked with, started with a
limiting belief that ‘I am not good at numbers’, during our coaching session,
we discovered that when she was in grade 4, she was unable to solve a
mathematical problem and her father was so upset that he tore the book. That
incident stayed with her and thus did her belief that she was ‘not good with
numbers’.
The question then is how we as parents can identify limiting beliefs within us
and in our children and create powerful and empowering beliefs.
Here are a few steps that I have found useful:

1. Being aware and understanding language pattern - If we observe following
pattern in our/our child’s language, then it is a sign of limiting belief.
a. Life is difficult for our children.

b. My child should always be the best student in his/her class.

c. She didn’t say ‘Hi’ to me today, that must mean she is upset with me.

d. I am not good enough.
e. You are not good enough.

f. Our neighbor’s daughter is better than you.

g. You must be 100% good at solving mathematics.

h. You can’t fail. It is not acceptable.
2. Asking questions - By asking questions to ourselves or our children, we may
be able to challenge some of the self-sabotaging beliefs. Here are few exam-
ples using sentences from point no. 1

➦ Life is difficult for our children - According to whom?

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