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of complaints that you have written in your notebook without
stating them to Glenn. Perhaps from the felt complaints, I
can help you build specific requests for Glenn that will help
meet some of those frustrations. Eventually, I want you to
learn how to share your frustrations and irritations in a
constructive way, and I want you and Glenn to learn how to
work through those irritations and conflicts. But during this
six-month experiment, I want you to write them down without
telling Glenn.”
Ann left, and I believed that she had the answer to her
question: “Is it possible to love someone whom you hate?”
In the next six months, Ann saw a tremendous change
in Glenn’s attitude and treatment of her. The first month, he
was flippant and treated the whole thing lightly. But after the
second month, he gave her positive feedback about her
efforts. In the last four months, he responded positively to
almost all of her requests, and her feelings for him began to
change drastically. Glenn never came for counseling, but he
did listen to some of my tapes and discuss them with Ann.
He encouraged Ann to continue her counseling, which she
did for another three months after our experiment. To this
day, Glenn swears to his friends that I am a miracle worker.
I know in fact that love is a miracle worker.

Perhaps you need a miracle in your own marriage. Why
not try Ann’s experiment? Tell your spouse that you have